For as high as the heavens are above the earth, so great is his love for those who fear him; as far as the east is from the west, so far has he removed our transgressions from us. As a father has compassion on his children, so the Lord has compassion on those who fear him. (Psalm 103:11-13 NIV).
Our past, especially our failures have a way of haunting us into our present and future. Today I want to begin a little series in practically dealing with the past. Today I want to center our thoughts in the times when we did commit a mistake. There are times when you don't mean to hurt someone, but you do. And there are times when, in the heat of anger or hurt, you deliberately lash out. It happens. Or as you become more conscious, you may look back regretfully on past behavior that seemed all right at the time but no longer does. And you feel bad. You feel guilty. Understand that guilt is often a "substitute" for a feeling you don't think you should have or that feels too uncomfortable or painful. You may be angry at someone who died, or an aging parent or small child, and don't feel you have a right to feel that way. Or you may have deliberately hurt someone you love, and that's too painful or shameful to admit. But like withholding forgiveness, holding onto guilt keeps you imprisoned in the past. As painful as it may be, there's value in dealing with feelings of guilt. After all, once we have confessed our mistakes and failures to the Lord, he removes them “as far as the east is from the west”! So, here are two practical things to do to conquer your past:
First, give yourself permission to feel the feelings. If you're feeling a feeling, it's the right feeling, no matter what anybody tells you or told you. You may not choose to act on it, but it's certainly okay and beneficial to allow yourself to feel it. If you find yourself feeling shamed, which may very well happen if you've hurt someone, it doesn't mean you're a bad person. You're just someone who's committed a hurtful act; in other words, you're human. You should understand that this “remorse” you feel is normal and natural. This is not about blame, but about taking responsibility and owning it. Remorse can be painful, but once you get through it, you can truly release your guilt. So as bad as it may feel, stick with it until you get through to the other side.
Second, forgive yourself. Look at why you hurt, take responsibility for it, and forgive yourself. If appropriate, you may want to apologize to the other person and ask them for their forgiveness. Be careful of the temptation to turn the tables to make them feel sorry for you and soften your own pain. Feel the remorse and give them the space to express their feelings. If you're feeling guilty over past behavior, acknowledge it, forgive yourself, and make the commitment to change the behavior from that point on certainly a more productive use of your energy than punishing yourself through eternity!
So take a few moments today to see where you need to forgive and where you need to release guilt. And remember, nothing is unforgivable. If you can't forgive the "what," you can always forgive "why." The past is over, and the best thing you can do for yourself and those you interact with is to let it go, reclaim the energy that kept the anger and guilt in place, and redirect that energy into a more positive future. God has.
Monday, May 31, 2010
Sunday, May 30, 2010
"Memorial Day, 2010"
I urge, then, first of all, that requests, prayers, intercession and thanksgiving be made for everyone— for kings and all those in authority, that we may live peaceful and quiet lives in all godliness and holiness. This is good, and pleases God our Savior, who wants all men to be saved and to come to a knowledge of the truth. (1 Timothy 2:1-4 NIV).
I just got home from church and began to think about exactly what I wanted to write about tomorrow, which is Memorial Day. I was reminded of the verse I have chosen for us today in Sunday School. It is a very clear command from the Apostle Paul for all believers to pray for “all those in authority.” That thought took me down one path for a few moments, but I really just didn’t feel a need to spend any time in that area. Don’t misunderstand. It is vital that we pray for our leadership. These are perilous times and demand the wisdom and direction of God if our nation is to survive. However, that being said, I felt a need to be a little more basic in my thoughts today.
So, let me begin with a question: Have you ever thought about the difference between forgetting and remembering? “Remembering” is a conscious choice. It involves an effort on my part to pull from my memory the thoughts and feelings previously deposited there through the many experiences of my past. “Forgetting.” well, that one is really easy. That just happens. I fail to send that birthday card to my friend, or I let the appointment with the doctor slip by. It happens more frequently than I’d like! The real key on this Memorial Day is in the remembering and that necessitates that I figure out how to stop forgetting? Again, it is a simple answer. We simply make that conscious effort to remember. As is true with all the other stuff I need to remember, I employ date books and calendars, to-do lists, and sticky notes all help prompt me to bring to mind the things I need to do.
So here is my thought for you today. Memorial Day is a conscious effort by our government to help us remember and honor those who fought and died for our country lest we forget the great price of our freedom. So, we have a national holiday. And we are encouraged to pause and remember them. Additionally we ought to also remember those who currently serve in our armed forces, and those who lead our country. Take a few moments in between the family gathering or celebration to pray for the provision of their physical, mental, emotional and spiritual needs. Pray for their protection, and ask God to bless their loved ones here at home.
Some of you are reading this and live outside of the U.S. Regardless of where you are, take a moment to pray for those who lead your nation. Ask God to give wisdom and direction to those in authority. Thank Him for the blessings you have around you. Really, we need to do this more than just on one special day every year. We need to let every day be a memorial day. Are you forgetting to pray? Be intentional about your remembering!
I just got home from church and began to think about exactly what I wanted to write about tomorrow, which is Memorial Day. I was reminded of the verse I have chosen for us today in Sunday School. It is a very clear command from the Apostle Paul for all believers to pray for “all those in authority.” That thought took me down one path for a few moments, but I really just didn’t feel a need to spend any time in that area. Don’t misunderstand. It is vital that we pray for our leadership. These are perilous times and demand the wisdom and direction of God if our nation is to survive. However, that being said, I felt a need to be a little more basic in my thoughts today.
So, let me begin with a question: Have you ever thought about the difference between forgetting and remembering? “Remembering” is a conscious choice. It involves an effort on my part to pull from my memory the thoughts and feelings previously deposited there through the many experiences of my past. “Forgetting.” well, that one is really easy. That just happens. I fail to send that birthday card to my friend, or I let the appointment with the doctor slip by. It happens more frequently than I’d like! The real key on this Memorial Day is in the remembering and that necessitates that I figure out how to stop forgetting? Again, it is a simple answer. We simply make that conscious effort to remember. As is true with all the other stuff I need to remember, I employ date books and calendars, to-do lists, and sticky notes all help prompt me to bring to mind the things I need to do.
So here is my thought for you today. Memorial Day is a conscious effort by our government to help us remember and honor those who fought and died for our country lest we forget the great price of our freedom. So, we have a national holiday. And we are encouraged to pause and remember them. Additionally we ought to also remember those who currently serve in our armed forces, and those who lead our country. Take a few moments in between the family gathering or celebration to pray for the provision of their physical, mental, emotional and spiritual needs. Pray for their protection, and ask God to bless their loved ones here at home.
Some of you are reading this and live outside of the U.S. Regardless of where you are, take a moment to pray for those who lead your nation. Ask God to give wisdom and direction to those in authority. Thank Him for the blessings you have around you. Really, we need to do this more than just on one special day every year. We need to let every day be a memorial day. Are you forgetting to pray? Be intentional about your remembering!
Saturday, May 29, 2010
"How Fast Can You Run?"
Submit yourselves, then, to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. Come near to God and he will come near to you. Wash your hands, you sinners, and purify your hearts, you double-minded. Grieve, mourn and wail. Change your laughter to mourning and your joy to gloom. Humble yourselves before the Lord, and he will lift you up. (James 4:7-10 NIV).
Have you noticed that fast is rarely fast enough? In so many areas of our lives, we are in a constant search for more and more speed in everything we do. Whether it’s at home or work, we press or are pressed to do things faster. I was struck by the subtle change at the grocery store just recently. Many years ago, when I worked at my Dad’s grocery store we took much more time to wait on the customer. If I was working behind the meat counter, I’d wait on people one at a time and let them personally choose the cut of meat they wanted to purchase. If they wanted a little more trimming done, we do it before it was wrapped and sealed. Today you go to the meat section and grab a pre-packaged cut of meat all in a rush to get the other things you need and check out as quickly as possible.
And have you noticed how we now “check out” at the end of our shopping. It’s really subtle. There used to be one register and most folks waited patiently in line and visited with one another while their turn approached. Now there are multiple registers and we rush to find the one with the fewest people in line. It wasn’t that long ago when they added the “fewer than ten items” register for those who really wanted to speed things up. And then, to my own personal horror, there are now self-checkout stands. There’s just something about a machine telling me in front of God and everybody that I have somehow made a mistake in checking out. It’s nearly as bad as my GPS repeating “recalculating” when I decide to make a detour off its chosen route!
Well, here’s my thought: no matter how fast we seem to do things, it is never good enough. That’s especially true in your spiritual life. We all have areas of failure, whether it is noticeable by others or not. We all fall short of the glory of God and fall to temptations. And it seems that Satan is right there, taunting us, telling us that "we aren't fast enough for him." He seems to be repeating the “recalculating” phrase like my GPS, telling me that I cannot defeat him. In many ways he is right... we aren't faster than he is, we aren't smarter than he is, and by ourselves we cannot defeat him... but with God, well that's another story.
James gives us this clear message. If we resist the devil, if we resist his temptations, he will flee from us. If we align ourselves with God in every decision we make, Satan will run away, as running away from danger. In our lives, we may not always be able to go faster. We may not always accomplish every goal, or resist every sin. But as long as we continuously resist Satan and his temptations through the power of God’s grace at work in us through the Holy Spirit we don’t need to go faster. In fact, we can even slow down a bit and enjoy life! Wouldn’t that be nice? Remember, no matter how much control Satan has over your life right now, or how often you fail, you can still have victory over him. For with God, all things are possible! Slow down and take a little walk with your heavenly Father. That sends Satan running away as fast as he can go!
Have you noticed that fast is rarely fast enough? In so many areas of our lives, we are in a constant search for more and more speed in everything we do. Whether it’s at home or work, we press or are pressed to do things faster. I was struck by the subtle change at the grocery store just recently. Many years ago, when I worked at my Dad’s grocery store we took much more time to wait on the customer. If I was working behind the meat counter, I’d wait on people one at a time and let them personally choose the cut of meat they wanted to purchase. If they wanted a little more trimming done, we do it before it was wrapped and sealed. Today you go to the meat section and grab a pre-packaged cut of meat all in a rush to get the other things you need and check out as quickly as possible.
And have you noticed how we now “check out” at the end of our shopping. It’s really subtle. There used to be one register and most folks waited patiently in line and visited with one another while their turn approached. Now there are multiple registers and we rush to find the one with the fewest people in line. It wasn’t that long ago when they added the “fewer than ten items” register for those who really wanted to speed things up. And then, to my own personal horror, there are now self-checkout stands. There’s just something about a machine telling me in front of God and everybody that I have somehow made a mistake in checking out. It’s nearly as bad as my GPS repeating “recalculating” when I decide to make a detour off its chosen route!
Well, here’s my thought: no matter how fast we seem to do things, it is never good enough. That’s especially true in your spiritual life. We all have areas of failure, whether it is noticeable by others or not. We all fall short of the glory of God and fall to temptations. And it seems that Satan is right there, taunting us, telling us that "we aren't fast enough for him." He seems to be repeating the “recalculating” phrase like my GPS, telling me that I cannot defeat him. In many ways he is right... we aren't faster than he is, we aren't smarter than he is, and by ourselves we cannot defeat him... but with God, well that's another story.
James gives us this clear message. If we resist the devil, if we resist his temptations, he will flee from us. If we align ourselves with God in every decision we make, Satan will run away, as running away from danger. In our lives, we may not always be able to go faster. We may not always accomplish every goal, or resist every sin. But as long as we continuously resist Satan and his temptations through the power of God’s grace at work in us through the Holy Spirit we don’t need to go faster. In fact, we can even slow down a bit and enjoy life! Wouldn’t that be nice? Remember, no matter how much control Satan has over your life right now, or how often you fail, you can still have victory over him. For with God, all things are possible! Slow down and take a little walk with your heavenly Father. That sends Satan running away as fast as he can go!
Friday, May 28, 2010
"Son of God, Son of Man"
The high priest said to him, "I charge you under oath by the living God: Tell us if you are the Christ, the Son of God." "Yes, it is as you say," Jesus replied. "But I say to all of you: In the future you will see the Son of Man sitting at the right hand of the Mighty One and coming on the clouds of heaven." (Matthew 26:63-64 NIV).
Without going into a lengthy recitation of apologetics I want to concentrate on two key names that Jesus claimed for Himself: Son of God and Son of Man. Like the Father, Jesus is God. He always was, always is, and always will be. But unlike the Father, Jesus is also a human being. Though charged with blasphemy and crucified for claiming to be one with the Father, Jesus' resurrection validates his claim to be God's Son in a unique way. When we confess our belief that Jesus is the Son of God, we share in the love the Father has for the Son, becoming adopted children of God. Additionally, though Jesus was the Son of God, he was also the Son of Man, a title that emphasizes both his lowliness and his eventual dominion. Near the end of his life, when the high priest asked him whether he was the Son of God, Jesus no longer avoided the title but answered clearly. That answer is the heart of our reading today. So, what difference does that make for us today practically? Well, at least one thing is that when we pray to Jesus as Son of God and Son of Man, we are praying to the One who is your Brother and your Lord.
Few things are as hard in this world as growing up without a family. What must it be like to live without the sense that you are deeply connected to other human beings who will stand by you no matter what? I have been waiting at the airport on occasion when I have noticed several families who were also waiting at the gate. On one particular occasion a group of people seemed especially tense and expectant. It didn't take long to realize just who they were waiting for. Six little black-haired babies were carried off the plane, lovingly cradled in the arms of a stranger who had watched over them during their long journey from South Korea to America. Now each infant was tenderly transferred into the arms of a waiting parent. The families were jubilant, the mothers teary-eyed, the children jumping up and down for a closer look at their new brother or sister, the fathers grinning broadly.
The scene I was privileged to witness is an image of the rejoicing that goes on in heaven whenever one of us crosses over from darkness to light, placing our faith in Jesus as God's Son. Today as you consider what Christ has done for you, imagine the rejoicing that went on in heaven when God changed your status from that of a spiritual orphan to a beloved son or daughter, no longer a slave but an heir to all of his promises. That’s the uniqueness of the person of Jesus and the grace that is now made available to us through His completed work! For me that’s a real “wow!”
Without going into a lengthy recitation of apologetics I want to concentrate on two key names that Jesus claimed for Himself: Son of God and Son of Man. Like the Father, Jesus is God. He always was, always is, and always will be. But unlike the Father, Jesus is also a human being. Though charged with blasphemy and crucified for claiming to be one with the Father, Jesus' resurrection validates his claim to be God's Son in a unique way. When we confess our belief that Jesus is the Son of God, we share in the love the Father has for the Son, becoming adopted children of God. Additionally, though Jesus was the Son of God, he was also the Son of Man, a title that emphasizes both his lowliness and his eventual dominion. Near the end of his life, when the high priest asked him whether he was the Son of God, Jesus no longer avoided the title but answered clearly. That answer is the heart of our reading today. So, what difference does that make for us today practically? Well, at least one thing is that when we pray to Jesus as Son of God and Son of Man, we are praying to the One who is your Brother and your Lord.
Few things are as hard in this world as growing up without a family. What must it be like to live without the sense that you are deeply connected to other human beings who will stand by you no matter what? I have been waiting at the airport on occasion when I have noticed several families who were also waiting at the gate. On one particular occasion a group of people seemed especially tense and expectant. It didn't take long to realize just who they were waiting for. Six little black-haired babies were carried off the plane, lovingly cradled in the arms of a stranger who had watched over them during their long journey from South Korea to America. Now each infant was tenderly transferred into the arms of a waiting parent. The families were jubilant, the mothers teary-eyed, the children jumping up and down for a closer look at their new brother or sister, the fathers grinning broadly.
The scene I was privileged to witness is an image of the rejoicing that goes on in heaven whenever one of us crosses over from darkness to light, placing our faith in Jesus as God's Son. Today as you consider what Christ has done for you, imagine the rejoicing that went on in heaven when God changed your status from that of a spiritual orphan to a beloved son or daughter, no longer a slave but an heir to all of his promises. That’s the uniqueness of the person of Jesus and the grace that is now made available to us through His completed work! For me that’s a real “wow!”
Thursday, May 27, 2010
"A Lesson from Moncton"
This is a trustworthy saying that deserves full acceptance (and for this we labor and strive), that we have put our hope in the living God, who is the Savior of all men, and especially of those who believe. Command and teach these things. (1 Timothy 4:9-11 NIV).
Aaron, my son, is in Moncton, New Brunswick, Canada to complete some research. While it is very expensive to use the cell phone from there to here, the internet has been a means to keep in touch. I guess this is one of those times when I am very glad for all the technology that I so often bemoan! Just the other day, he was interviewed on the Canadian Radio Network. He had emailed and told me it was going to happen, so naturally I asked if I could “tune in” via the internet. Well, unfortunately I couldn’t, however the station did post it to their website and I listen to it just a little while ago. It was great to hear his voice! However, since the entire interview was in French the only two words I understood were “Aaron” and “Emmitte” when they introduced him!
I tell you that little story simply to introduce you to a concept that is vital to your present life. These are such difficult times for so many people. As I wrote yesterday, “Our redemption draws near.” I know that is true, but I am afraid it is not often practiced in a way that is helpful. Christians are incurably forward-looking. Often that makes any challenge much more difficult to deal with practically. We do need to live with knowledge of the future’s victory, but we also need to apply that victory to the present.
That’s what came to my mind as I listened to Aaron’s interview. Even though I did not understand what was said, I know who said it. His tone of voice, the tempo of the conversation, the joy expressed in the laughter at times, all of the conversation reminded me of who he is. You see, I don’t understand all the unfolding of events and experiences in my life. I just don’t know that “language.” It is a divine language of eternal perspective and scope. However, every experience is understood in the knowledge I have of the One speaking. I know Jesus, so I can know that whatever happens, my future is secure and today is merely a temporary event that will pass. That gives me the hope I need to keep going every day!
That hope produces so many other blessings. I know that death, which is the result of sin, will be a thing of the past. Sorrow, fear, suffering, pain all will be gone! Our gracious God will wipe every tear from our eyes. Our struggles will be over, too. Then, for the first time, we shall be fully satisfied as we enjoy all of what God has prepared for us. No wonder the Apostle Paul tells Timothy to “command and teach these things”! When we teach them, people may learn them. If they learn them, they may experience them. If they experience them, they will overcome their challenges successfully and enjoy the blessing of real peace and joy! That’s a lesson worth learning!
Aaron, my son, is in Moncton, New Brunswick, Canada to complete some research. While it is very expensive to use the cell phone from there to here, the internet has been a means to keep in touch. I guess this is one of those times when I am very glad for all the technology that I so often bemoan! Just the other day, he was interviewed on the Canadian Radio Network. He had emailed and told me it was going to happen, so naturally I asked if I could “tune in” via the internet. Well, unfortunately I couldn’t, however the station did post it to their website and I listen to it just a little while ago. It was great to hear his voice! However, since the entire interview was in French the only two words I understood were “Aaron” and “Emmitte” when they introduced him!
I tell you that little story simply to introduce you to a concept that is vital to your present life. These are such difficult times for so many people. As I wrote yesterday, “Our redemption draws near.” I know that is true, but I am afraid it is not often practiced in a way that is helpful. Christians are incurably forward-looking. Often that makes any challenge much more difficult to deal with practically. We do need to live with knowledge of the future’s victory, but we also need to apply that victory to the present.
That’s what came to my mind as I listened to Aaron’s interview. Even though I did not understand what was said, I know who said it. His tone of voice, the tempo of the conversation, the joy expressed in the laughter at times, all of the conversation reminded me of who he is. You see, I don’t understand all the unfolding of events and experiences in my life. I just don’t know that “language.” It is a divine language of eternal perspective and scope. However, every experience is understood in the knowledge I have of the One speaking. I know Jesus, so I can know that whatever happens, my future is secure and today is merely a temporary event that will pass. That gives me the hope I need to keep going every day!
That hope produces so many other blessings. I know that death, which is the result of sin, will be a thing of the past. Sorrow, fear, suffering, pain all will be gone! Our gracious God will wipe every tear from our eyes. Our struggles will be over, too. Then, for the first time, we shall be fully satisfied as we enjoy all of what God has prepared for us. No wonder the Apostle Paul tells Timothy to “command and teach these things”! When we teach them, people may learn them. If they learn them, they may experience them. If they experience them, they will overcome their challenges successfully and enjoy the blessing of real peace and joy! That’s a lesson worth learning!
Wednesday, May 26, 2010
"Is Our Redemption Drawing Near?"
Jesus said, "There will be signs in the sun, moon and stars. On the earth, nations will be in anguish and perplexity at the roaring and tossing of the sea. Men will faint from terror, apprehensive of what is coming on the world, for the heavenly bodies will be shaken. At that time they will see the Son of Man coming in a cloud with power and great glory. When these things begin to take place, stand up and lift up your heads, because your redemption is drawing near." (Luke 21:25-28 NIV).
Our reading today is in a greater context of Jesus answering a direct question from his disciples as to the timing of the end of the world as they knew it. We call that “the Second Coming.” Please do not dismiss this devotional as either unimportant or fanciful speculation. My concern is neither of those outcomes. I do not want anyone to somehow get caught by surprise by the end, nor do I want to subscribe to the thought that we can somehow predict the exact timing of the coming of Christ. The overwhelming evidence of Scripture is that we are to be prepared for that time now.
In the past several years we’ve seen numerous significant natural disasters in many places across the globe. For thousands of years there have been earthquakes, famines, and plagues which have brought havoc to mankind. However, the events of the past few months have been breathtaking in the scope of devastation they have caused. For instance, when have you ever heard of a volcanic eruption shutting down air traffic across an entire continent for a week, which, itself, may be only a precursor to its neighbor volcano’s explosive power which portends 10 times the devastation! Similarly, has the world ever witnessed the destruction of another underwater “volcanic” event spewing massive quantities of crude oil for a month into the ocean and threatening to affect a quarter of the globe? Aerial photographs of this disaster have the appearance of “blood” and remind one of passages from Exodus or the book of Revelation. Just a few months ago, these events would have stretched our imagination, but these are the signs of the times in which we live!
There are two principle points I want to make. First, this means that “our redemption is drawing near!” That ought to excite us. It ought to bring us great encouragement and hope as we face these difficult challenges in our day. This is not our home. Our home is being prepared for us and we may soon be able to move in! Secondly, I believe these events are calling us to preparation of ourselves and others. It is a great privilege for God to have appointed us to live in this day. So many people are once again turning to the Church for answers! We DO have those answers. We need to be ready and willing to share the answer of faith in Christ! There are so many ways to do that. The important thing is that we do it. We have a light for this darkness; we must not hide it under a basket of legalism and traditions. Let it shine! We may be in the last days!
Our reading today is in a greater context of Jesus answering a direct question from his disciples as to the timing of the end of the world as they knew it. We call that “the Second Coming.” Please do not dismiss this devotional as either unimportant or fanciful speculation. My concern is neither of those outcomes. I do not want anyone to somehow get caught by surprise by the end, nor do I want to subscribe to the thought that we can somehow predict the exact timing of the coming of Christ. The overwhelming evidence of Scripture is that we are to be prepared for that time now.
In the past several years we’ve seen numerous significant natural disasters in many places across the globe. For thousands of years there have been earthquakes, famines, and plagues which have brought havoc to mankind. However, the events of the past few months have been breathtaking in the scope of devastation they have caused. For instance, when have you ever heard of a volcanic eruption shutting down air traffic across an entire continent for a week, which, itself, may be only a precursor to its neighbor volcano’s explosive power which portends 10 times the devastation! Similarly, has the world ever witnessed the destruction of another underwater “volcanic” event spewing massive quantities of crude oil for a month into the ocean and threatening to affect a quarter of the globe? Aerial photographs of this disaster have the appearance of “blood” and remind one of passages from Exodus or the book of Revelation. Just a few months ago, these events would have stretched our imagination, but these are the signs of the times in which we live!
There are two principle points I want to make. First, this means that “our redemption is drawing near!” That ought to excite us. It ought to bring us great encouragement and hope as we face these difficult challenges in our day. This is not our home. Our home is being prepared for us and we may soon be able to move in! Secondly, I believe these events are calling us to preparation of ourselves and others. It is a great privilege for God to have appointed us to live in this day. So many people are once again turning to the Church for answers! We DO have those answers. We need to be ready and willing to share the answer of faith in Christ! There are so many ways to do that. The important thing is that we do it. We have a light for this darkness; we must not hide it under a basket of legalism and traditions. Let it shine! We may be in the last days!
Tuesday, May 25, 2010
"The Dimensions of Grace"
You forgave the iniquity of your people and covered all their sins. (Psalm 85:2 NIV).
Grace Restoration Ministries… What is it and why do it? Those are both very legitimate questions to ask. Believe me, I’ve asked them a lot over the past few years. My journey over the past twelve yeas has been somewhat of a surprise. However, no matter what turn in the road I’ve taken, I have never been unable to see the end. That goal has been very clear from the beginning. Over the next few weeks, I hope to make it clear to you as well. Today, I want to start with a very basic principle. It is one that drives me to minister to the families and churches a sense of real grace. It is a part of the “what” of Grace Restoration Ministries.
I believe grace comes to us in two dimensions: vertical and horizontal. Vertical grace is easy to explain. Most of us have experienced it to one degree or another. It centers on our relationship with God. It’s strange that so many, having initially experienced this dimension of grace, still feel their bondage to old sins and past failures. The amazing thing about vertical grace is that it frees us from the demands and condemnation of the Mosaic Law. It announces hope to the sinner and the gift of eternal life, along with all its benefits. This is the place where we come to understand that past failures have no hold on our present joy!
The second dimension of grace is horizontal. This aspect of grace centers on our human relationships. It is charming. It frees us from the tyranny of pleasing people and adjusting our lives to the demands and expectations of human opinion. It gives relief and the joy of freedom along with all its benefits. It silences needless guilt and removes self-imposed shame. It guarantees us that future fears cannot rob us of present joy!
Few people realize better than non-Christians how guilt-ridden many Christians are. I have had numerous conversations and communications with people who were either not practicing Christians or outright non-believers who were curious how I could be affiliated with any church, much less Christian. Often I have been told that they have no interest at all in Christianity. Usually when I ask why, their answer is stinging in its reality. Most of the time they say something like, "Christians are the most guilt-ridden people I know. No thanks." That truth drives me to an understanding that we need restoration to the truth of Scripture and the freedom Christ has secured for us in the Cross and Resurrection!
Let me end this little devotional with two questions. Only you can answer them: Do you add to others' guilt or do you lessen it? And, are you the type who promotes another's liberty or restrains it? Both questions have to do with attitude, don't they? We do what we do with others because of the way we think. Our attitude, therefore, is crucial. It is also at our mercy. We have full control of which attitude we shall have: charming and gracious or restrictive and rigid. Liberty or legalism will be the result. Depending on our attitude, we are grace givers or grace killers. Be a grace giver! Help people see liberty in your life! After all, that’s why Jesus paid such an extravagant price on our behalf!
Grace Restoration Ministries… What is it and why do it? Those are both very legitimate questions to ask. Believe me, I’ve asked them a lot over the past few years. My journey over the past twelve yeas has been somewhat of a surprise. However, no matter what turn in the road I’ve taken, I have never been unable to see the end. That goal has been very clear from the beginning. Over the next few weeks, I hope to make it clear to you as well. Today, I want to start with a very basic principle. It is one that drives me to minister to the families and churches a sense of real grace. It is a part of the “what” of Grace Restoration Ministries.
I believe grace comes to us in two dimensions: vertical and horizontal. Vertical grace is easy to explain. Most of us have experienced it to one degree or another. It centers on our relationship with God. It’s strange that so many, having initially experienced this dimension of grace, still feel their bondage to old sins and past failures. The amazing thing about vertical grace is that it frees us from the demands and condemnation of the Mosaic Law. It announces hope to the sinner and the gift of eternal life, along with all its benefits. This is the place where we come to understand that past failures have no hold on our present joy!
The second dimension of grace is horizontal. This aspect of grace centers on our human relationships. It is charming. It frees us from the tyranny of pleasing people and adjusting our lives to the demands and expectations of human opinion. It gives relief and the joy of freedom along with all its benefits. It silences needless guilt and removes self-imposed shame. It guarantees us that future fears cannot rob us of present joy!
Few people realize better than non-Christians how guilt-ridden many Christians are. I have had numerous conversations and communications with people who were either not practicing Christians or outright non-believers who were curious how I could be affiliated with any church, much less Christian. Often I have been told that they have no interest at all in Christianity. Usually when I ask why, their answer is stinging in its reality. Most of the time they say something like, "Christians are the most guilt-ridden people I know. No thanks." That truth drives me to an understanding that we need restoration to the truth of Scripture and the freedom Christ has secured for us in the Cross and Resurrection!
Let me end this little devotional with two questions. Only you can answer them: Do you add to others' guilt or do you lessen it? And, are you the type who promotes another's liberty or restrains it? Both questions have to do with attitude, don't they? We do what we do with others because of the way we think. Our attitude, therefore, is crucial. It is also at our mercy. We have full control of which attitude we shall have: charming and gracious or restrictive and rigid. Liberty or legalism will be the result. Depending on our attitude, we are grace givers or grace killers. Be a grace giver! Help people see liberty in your life! After all, that’s why Jesus paid such an extravagant price on our behalf!
Monday, May 24, 2010
"Wicker Baskets"
Now a man of the house of Levi married a Levite woman, and she became pregnant and gave birth to a son. When she saw that he was a fine child, she hid him for three months. But when she could hide him no longer, she got a papyrus basket for him and coated it with tar and pitch. Then she placed the child in it and put it among the reeds along the bank of the Nile. His sister stood at a distance to see what would happen to him. (Exodus 2:1-4 NIV).
Israel’s captivity in Egypt was a very dark time in their history. At the time of Moses’ birth, Pharaoh's cruelty to the Hebrew people had hit an all-time high. His attempt to curb their population's growth by having the Egyptian midwives kill their male babies hadn't worked because the mid-wives feared God. So he enslaved the Hebrews even further by forcing them to work long hours building enormous structures. Perhaps he thought that with all the work they wouldn't have the time or energy to reproduce. That didn't work, either. So finally he decreed that all male babies born to the Hebrews were to be thrown into the Nile River to be eaten by the crocodiles. This was the world in which Moses was born.
Moses was apparently a truly striking infant. The ancients regarded beauty in babies as a sign of divine favor, and when Moses was born, his parents, Amram and Jochebed, felt so strongly that God had a divine purpose for their child, that they were willing to risk breaking Pharaoh's recent decree. They managed to successfully hide their infant son for three months, and then carried out a divinely inspired and assisted plan that ensured he would not only survive, but flourish. Jochebed fashioned a wicker basket, made watertight with tar and pitch, to hold the baby she'd named Joachim.
It was indeed tiny in comparison to the size of Noah's ark, but the two had something in common: they both held someone chosen by God, floated on the waters to deliver a fresh start. There have always been, and always will be attempts by the enemy to keep God's plans and purposes from advancing, but attempts are all they are; there will never be any long-term successes. Satan wants us to forget that Jesus defeated sin and death; he wants us to forget that even when our lives seem to be spiraling out of control, we have a God who is watching over us and working things for our good. God's plans are for us to flourish, and his plans are as watertight as a papyrus basket coated with tar and pitch. That’s certainly the promise record by the prophet Jeremiah:
For I know the plans I have for you," declares the Lord, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. (Jeremiah 29:11 NIV).
Perhaps you feel trapped with no one or nowhere to turn. Would you turn to the Lord. He has prepared a wicker basket just for you!
Israel’s captivity in Egypt was a very dark time in their history. At the time of Moses’ birth, Pharaoh's cruelty to the Hebrew people had hit an all-time high. His attempt to curb their population's growth by having the Egyptian midwives kill their male babies hadn't worked because the mid-wives feared God. So he enslaved the Hebrews even further by forcing them to work long hours building enormous structures. Perhaps he thought that with all the work they wouldn't have the time or energy to reproduce. That didn't work, either. So finally he decreed that all male babies born to the Hebrews were to be thrown into the Nile River to be eaten by the crocodiles. This was the world in which Moses was born.
Moses was apparently a truly striking infant. The ancients regarded beauty in babies as a sign of divine favor, and when Moses was born, his parents, Amram and Jochebed, felt so strongly that God had a divine purpose for their child, that they were willing to risk breaking Pharaoh's recent decree. They managed to successfully hide their infant son for three months, and then carried out a divinely inspired and assisted plan that ensured he would not only survive, but flourish. Jochebed fashioned a wicker basket, made watertight with tar and pitch, to hold the baby she'd named Joachim.
It was indeed tiny in comparison to the size of Noah's ark, but the two had something in common: they both held someone chosen by God, floated on the waters to deliver a fresh start. There have always been, and always will be attempts by the enemy to keep God's plans and purposes from advancing, but attempts are all they are; there will never be any long-term successes. Satan wants us to forget that Jesus defeated sin and death; he wants us to forget that even when our lives seem to be spiraling out of control, we have a God who is watching over us and working things for our good. God's plans are for us to flourish, and his plans are as watertight as a papyrus basket coated with tar and pitch. That’s certainly the promise record by the prophet Jeremiah:
For I know the plans I have for you," declares the Lord, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. (Jeremiah 29:11 NIV).
Perhaps you feel trapped with no one or nowhere to turn. Would you turn to the Lord. He has prepared a wicker basket just for you!
Monday, May 17, 2010
"Faith and Logic"
Now faith is being sure of what we hope for and certain of what we do not see. This is what the ancients were commended for. (Hebrews 11:1-2 NIV).
Yesterday I wrote about The Greater Reality. I must confess that I am not nearly as logical as some of the great apologists of history. However, I am reading more apologetics now than I have in some time. The more I read, the more I am convinced we have it right. For example, C. S. Lewis, in Mere Christianity, wrote: "Now faith is the art of holding on to things your reason has once accepted, in spite of your changing moods." In his second published Narnia book, Lewis further explores questions of faith, as well as God's calling, through two recurring characters: Aslan the lion and Lucy Pevensie. If you have not read The Lion, the Witch and the Wardrobe, at least get the DVD and watch it. It is an incredible story speaking to the reality of faith.
In the book Lucy encounters Aslan for the first time, while in Prince Caspian she returns to Narnia, but Aslan, for a time, eludes her. A Christ-figure, Aslan embodies all that is just, holy and good. Like Christ, his divine presence is not only a comfort, but also radiates majesty, power and truth. Lucy is firm in her claim that she has seen Aslan, even when her traveling companions have not. She also believes that her seeing Aslan is a sign that they are going in the wrong direction. After some discussion (and argument), the group votes and decides not to act on Lucy's insights. Following a series of mishaps, the group then decides to turn around and go in the direction Lucy first suggested. Lucy later awakens from a deep sleep; "with the feeling that the voice she liked best in the world had been calling her name." Lucy heeds the call, gets up, and wanders through the woods alone. She is rewarded by meeting Aslan. "Welcome, child," says the lion. Lucy perceives him as being bigger than he used to be: "That is because you are older … every year you grow, you will find me bigger."
Of all the human characters in the Chronicles of Narnia, Lucy is most attuned to Aslan's voice and calling. She hears him and obeys. Her faith opens her to the wonders of God and His calling. And, isn’t this the truth in our reading today? The Bible, however, does not call us to blind faith, but reasonable faith that understands Christianity as being, in the words of the Apostle Paul, "true and reasonable" (Acts 26:25). As C.S. Lewis wrote, God "wants a child's heart, but a grown-up's head." So, how can we become better attuned to God's presence and calling in our lives? Here are some suggestions to capturing the Great Reality in your life:
• Cultivate a regular and consistent prayer life
• Be open daily to seeking God's influence in your life
• Read the Bible regularly and thoughtfully
• Seek and heed the wise counsel of others
• Develop a genuine desire to be in God's will
• Rid yourself any possible habit in your life that may distance us from God
• Unclutter our spiritual lives so God has room to move
Faith is not blind movement. It is what has proven to be “true and reasonable” through the ages in the lives of all of those who have gone before us. Go ahead trust in the Great REALITY!
Yesterday I wrote about The Greater Reality. I must confess that I am not nearly as logical as some of the great apologists of history. However, I am reading more apologetics now than I have in some time. The more I read, the more I am convinced we have it right. For example, C. S. Lewis, in Mere Christianity, wrote: "Now faith is the art of holding on to things your reason has once accepted, in spite of your changing moods." In his second published Narnia book, Lewis further explores questions of faith, as well as God's calling, through two recurring characters: Aslan the lion and Lucy Pevensie. If you have not read The Lion, the Witch and the Wardrobe, at least get the DVD and watch it. It is an incredible story speaking to the reality of faith.
In the book Lucy encounters Aslan for the first time, while in Prince Caspian she returns to Narnia, but Aslan, for a time, eludes her. A Christ-figure, Aslan embodies all that is just, holy and good. Like Christ, his divine presence is not only a comfort, but also radiates majesty, power and truth. Lucy is firm in her claim that she has seen Aslan, even when her traveling companions have not. She also believes that her seeing Aslan is a sign that they are going in the wrong direction. After some discussion (and argument), the group votes and decides not to act on Lucy's insights. Following a series of mishaps, the group then decides to turn around and go in the direction Lucy first suggested. Lucy later awakens from a deep sleep; "with the feeling that the voice she liked best in the world had been calling her name." Lucy heeds the call, gets up, and wanders through the woods alone. She is rewarded by meeting Aslan. "Welcome, child," says the lion. Lucy perceives him as being bigger than he used to be: "That is because you are older … every year you grow, you will find me bigger."
Of all the human characters in the Chronicles of Narnia, Lucy is most attuned to Aslan's voice and calling. She hears him and obeys. Her faith opens her to the wonders of God and His calling. And, isn’t this the truth in our reading today? The Bible, however, does not call us to blind faith, but reasonable faith that understands Christianity as being, in the words of the Apostle Paul, "true and reasonable" (Acts 26:25). As C.S. Lewis wrote, God "wants a child's heart, but a grown-up's head." So, how can we become better attuned to God's presence and calling in our lives? Here are some suggestions to capturing the Great Reality in your life:
• Cultivate a regular and consistent prayer life
• Be open daily to seeking God's influence in your life
• Read the Bible regularly and thoughtfully
• Seek and heed the wise counsel of others
• Develop a genuine desire to be in God's will
• Rid yourself any possible habit in your life that may distance us from God
• Unclutter our spiritual lives so God has room to move
Faith is not blind movement. It is what has proven to be “true and reasonable” through the ages in the lives of all of those who have gone before us. Go ahead trust in the Great REALITY!
"The Greater Reality"
But now, this is what the Lord says–He who created you, O Jacob, He who formed you, O Israel: Fear not, for I have redeemed you; I have summoned you by name; you are Mine. When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and when you pass through the rivers, they will not sweep over you. When you walk though the fire, you will not be burned; the flames will not set you ablaze. (Isaiah 43:1-2 NIV).
I hope I wasn’t too harsh on the Israelites yesterday. And, I would never diminish the reality of the difficulty of crossing the wasteland with millions of people in tow. I am fully aware that often the Morning Devotionals seem simplistic or flippant as I deal with real problems and significant challenges. Part of the reason for that is the brevity of the writing. However, the other is a little more complex. I do believe that there is a simple answer to all of our challenges. Now, I did NOT say easy; I said simple.
The reality of the presence of adversity in life is a given. If you haven’t reached a point in your life when it seemed too difficult to take another step, hang around a while. You will. Tragically some Christian teaching mistakenly proclaims that this life of faith somehow entitles us to a smooth and painless ride through life, and that if we’re not traveling first class it’s only because we don’t have enough faith. That’s not what Jesus said. Once, when a man came to Jesus pledging his commitment to follow him, Jesus replied: "Foxes have holes and birds of the air have nests, but the Son of Man has no place to lay his head" (Luke 9:58 NIV). Does that sound like He promises an easy life to you? In fact, David said life can be like walking through the valley of the shadow of death (Psalm 23).
Or consider Isaiah’s words in our reading today. None of that sounds like adversity has been avoided. However, in each of these places we are promised by the Lord, I will be with you. There it is again, simple… not easy! So, what’s the difference? I think it is in the answer to the following question: Which is a greater reality, the intensity of a trial or the presence of the Lord with us in that trial? This question sometimes cannot be answered until we have stood in the midst of the floods of adversity and experienced Him with us. It is then that the knowing moves from head to heart and the impact of the adversity lessens in the magnitude of God’s presence.
Soon I will be sharing in detail the journey of my last twelve years. However, can I assure you that I personally understand and know the difference between focusing on the greater reality? May I assure you that EVERY time I kept my focus on His presence, I have not only known peace, I have seen doors open I thought were shut and locked; I have seen pathways cleared that I thought were impassable; I have seen mountains crumble that stood in the way forward. You can do that too. Gaze at the Greater Reality of God’s presence in the Holy Spirit!
I hope I wasn’t too harsh on the Israelites yesterday. And, I would never diminish the reality of the difficulty of crossing the wasteland with millions of people in tow. I am fully aware that often the Morning Devotionals seem simplistic or flippant as I deal with real problems and significant challenges. Part of the reason for that is the brevity of the writing. However, the other is a little more complex. I do believe that there is a simple answer to all of our challenges. Now, I did NOT say easy; I said simple.
The reality of the presence of adversity in life is a given. If you haven’t reached a point in your life when it seemed too difficult to take another step, hang around a while. You will. Tragically some Christian teaching mistakenly proclaims that this life of faith somehow entitles us to a smooth and painless ride through life, and that if we’re not traveling first class it’s only because we don’t have enough faith. That’s not what Jesus said. Once, when a man came to Jesus pledging his commitment to follow him, Jesus replied: "Foxes have holes and birds of the air have nests, but the Son of Man has no place to lay his head" (Luke 9:58 NIV). Does that sound like He promises an easy life to you? In fact, David said life can be like walking through the valley of the shadow of death (Psalm 23).
Or consider Isaiah’s words in our reading today. None of that sounds like adversity has been avoided. However, in each of these places we are promised by the Lord, I will be with you. There it is again, simple… not easy! So, what’s the difference? I think it is in the answer to the following question: Which is a greater reality, the intensity of a trial or the presence of the Lord with us in that trial? This question sometimes cannot be answered until we have stood in the midst of the floods of adversity and experienced Him with us. It is then that the knowing moves from head to heart and the impact of the adversity lessens in the magnitude of God’s presence.
Soon I will be sharing in detail the journey of my last twelve years. However, can I assure you that I personally understand and know the difference between focusing on the greater reality? May I assure you that EVERY time I kept my focus on His presence, I have not only known peace, I have seen doors open I thought were shut and locked; I have seen pathways cleared that I thought were impassable; I have seen mountains crumble that stood in the way forward. You can do that too. Gaze at the Greater Reality of God’s presence in the Holy Spirit!
"The Long Arm of the Lord"
The Lord told Moses, “Tell the people: Consecrate yourselves in preparation for tomorrow, when you will eat meat. The Lord heard you when you wailed, ‘If only we had meat to eat! We were better off in Egypt!’ Now the Lord will give you meat, and you will eat it. You will not eat it for just one day, or two days, or five, ten or twenty days, but for a whole month—until it comes out of your nostrils and you loathe it—because you have rejected the Lord, who is among you, and have wailed before him, saying, ‘Why did we ever leave Egypt?’” But Moses said, "Here I am among six hundred thousand men on foot, and you say, 'I will give them meat to eat for a whole month!' Would they have enough if flocks and herds were slaughtered for them? Would they have enough if all the fish in the sea were caught for them?’ The Lord answered Moses, "Is the Lord's arm too short? You will now see whether or not what I say will come true for you." So Moses went out and told the people what the Lord had said. (Numbers 11:18-24 NIV).
Let me give you a little context for our reading today. The Israelites were finally free from their Egyptian slavery. Moses had returned to Egypt and led them out. On their journey to their new land, the land that was promised to be “flowing with milk and honey,” they were required to travel through some very inhospitable country. It was dry desert and mountainous paths. It was hard and they complained. They first complained about the journey, then the food. In fact, the common rant was how they were better off as slaves. So God sent manna for them to eat. There are lots of different descriptions of manna in the theological community; however, suffice it to say that it was sweet, pastry-like bread. Not bad. It wasn’t Krispy Kreme, but it could have been much worse than having frosted flakes every day. They could have had to scrounge for grubs and worms!
Crazy as it might seem, they complained AGAIN. They wanted meat, not just pastry. So, God gathers all the leaders with Moses in the Tent of Meeting and He says, “No problem. You want meat; I’ll give you meat until you are tired of it!” Moses still wasn’t really listening very well. The whole point was a caution against rejecting the gift of God’s care and grace. He began to question how God was going to do that! And the Lord answered him with a question: Is the arm of the Lord too short?
I must confess that I have been like Moses at times. I hear and know the promises of God, but I question how he’s gonna pull it off! Well, the key to it all is in understanding that the Lord’s arm is never too short! He has a very long arm and nothing I need is beyond his reach! My peace can only be found in trusting that truth. Of course, that doesn’t excuse my laziness or poor choices, but it does guarantee that he will find a way for me as I seek, he will open a door when I knock, and he will give it to me when I ask! Won’t you join me in the seeking, knocking, and asking? I am convinced that if you do, you will not be disappointed!
Let me give you a little context for our reading today. The Israelites were finally free from their Egyptian slavery. Moses had returned to Egypt and led them out. On their journey to their new land, the land that was promised to be “flowing with milk and honey,” they were required to travel through some very inhospitable country. It was dry desert and mountainous paths. It was hard and they complained. They first complained about the journey, then the food. In fact, the common rant was how they were better off as slaves. So God sent manna for them to eat. There are lots of different descriptions of manna in the theological community; however, suffice it to say that it was sweet, pastry-like bread. Not bad. It wasn’t Krispy Kreme, but it could have been much worse than having frosted flakes every day. They could have had to scrounge for grubs and worms!
Crazy as it might seem, they complained AGAIN. They wanted meat, not just pastry. So, God gathers all the leaders with Moses in the Tent of Meeting and He says, “No problem. You want meat; I’ll give you meat until you are tired of it!” Moses still wasn’t really listening very well. The whole point was a caution against rejecting the gift of God’s care and grace. He began to question how God was going to do that! And the Lord answered him with a question: Is the arm of the Lord too short?
I must confess that I have been like Moses at times. I hear and know the promises of God, but I question how he’s gonna pull it off! Well, the key to it all is in understanding that the Lord’s arm is never too short! He has a very long arm and nothing I need is beyond his reach! My peace can only be found in trusting that truth. Of course, that doesn’t excuse my laziness or poor choices, but it does guarantee that he will find a way for me as I seek, he will open a door when I knock, and he will give it to me when I ask! Won’t you join me in the seeking, knocking, and asking? I am convinced that if you do, you will not be disappointed!
"Rehearsal Day"
I am writing this devotional well in advance of the date as I will be in Texas for my nephew’s wedding. In fact, if you are reading them a day at a time, today is the day for the rehearsal. I’ve done many weddings in my forty years of ministry, but I am always so grateful for the privilege of being a part of my family’s marriages. Ryan and Alison are such fine young adults. I am confident they will be wonderful together as they become husband and wife.
That confidence is not rooted in their intelligence, though they are both very intelligent. It is not rooted in the compatibility, though all the testing shows a high degree of compatibility. It is not rooted in deep feelings for one another, though they certainly have a secure emotional attachment to one another. All of those things can fail. I’ve seen very intelligent, seemingly compatible, emotionally drawn people lose their way and end their marriages with divorce. Ultimately the only means to insure a successful marriage is in the absolute commitment of both individuals to Christ and each other. It’s the same kind of commitment mirrored in Ruth’s commitment to Naomi:
Wherever you go, I will go; wherever you live, I will live. Your people will be my people, and your God will be my God. Wherever you die, I will die, and there I will be buried. May the Lord punish me severely if I allow anything but death to separate us!” (Ruth 1:16-17 NIV).
Did you see it? There is no waver; no second thoughts. She is completely committed. So it should be with every man and woman who enters into a marriage covenant. That’s the only thing that allows real transformation to take place. That is the only means to taking the tow independent lives and melding them into one.
It’s fine to rehearse the various movements and actions of a wedding ceremony. I always have a great time watching how nervous everyone is. However, the real rehearsal for a successful marriage has been going on in their lives for a long time. The lessons they have learned thus far now need to be put into practice. They are the lessons of perseverance, commitment, faithfulness, and genuine sacrificial love. I am confident they will.
For some of you, the challenge today is to a recommitment to those same things. Some of you are thinking that it is too late for you. It is never too late to start fresh with Christ. You may be single, divorced, or troubled, please turn to Christ. Find a godly, Biblically principled counselor to help you make sure your future is pointed down a path walking with Him. And, if you can’t find someone like that near you, call me.
That confidence is not rooted in their intelligence, though they are both very intelligent. It is not rooted in the compatibility, though all the testing shows a high degree of compatibility. It is not rooted in deep feelings for one another, though they certainly have a secure emotional attachment to one another. All of those things can fail. I’ve seen very intelligent, seemingly compatible, emotionally drawn people lose their way and end their marriages with divorce. Ultimately the only means to insure a successful marriage is in the absolute commitment of both individuals to Christ and each other. It’s the same kind of commitment mirrored in Ruth’s commitment to Naomi:
Wherever you go, I will go; wherever you live, I will live. Your people will be my people, and your God will be my God. Wherever you die, I will die, and there I will be buried. May the Lord punish me severely if I allow anything but death to separate us!” (Ruth 1:16-17 NIV).
Did you see it? There is no waver; no second thoughts. She is completely committed. So it should be with every man and woman who enters into a marriage covenant. That’s the only thing that allows real transformation to take place. That is the only means to taking the tow independent lives and melding them into one.
It’s fine to rehearse the various movements and actions of a wedding ceremony. I always have a great time watching how nervous everyone is. However, the real rehearsal for a successful marriage has been going on in their lives for a long time. The lessons they have learned thus far now need to be put into practice. They are the lessons of perseverance, commitment, faithfulness, and genuine sacrificial love. I am confident they will.
For some of you, the challenge today is to a recommitment to those same things. Some of you are thinking that it is too late for you. It is never too late to start fresh with Christ. You may be single, divorced, or troubled, please turn to Christ. Find a godly, Biblically principled counselor to help you make sure your future is pointed down a path walking with Him. And, if you can’t find someone like that near you, call me.
"Security"
The memory of the righteous will be a blessing, but the name of the wicked will rot. The wise in heart accept commands, but a chattering fool comes to ruin. The man of integrity walks securely, but he who takes crooked paths will be found out. (Proverbs 10:7-9 NIV).
Read the bold verse again. If ever there was a need for security it is now. Our day is filled with uncertainty, challenge, and struggle. Job lived in that kind of world and yet the Scripture says that he was “secure.” In fact, by the time we see Job; he had reared his family, established himself in the business world, and gotten up in years. He had become “the greatest of all the men of the east” (Job 1:3). When people mentioned his name, feelings of respect arose, for the man was “upright, fearing God and turning away from evil” (1:1). Job walked securely. Similar things were said of Joseph. Though young, he became Potiphar’s “personal servant” and later was put in charge over all Potiphar owned, both “in the house and in the field” (Genesis 39:5). Whether before the workers or handling large sums of money or serving a large group of guests or all alone in the home with Potiphar’s wife, Joseph could be trusted. He walked securely, free of skeletons in his closet. Daniel also comes to mind. He distinguished himself among his peers because “he possessed an extraordinary spirit” (Daniel 6:3), which was observed by his superior, King Darius. He came up for promotion to prime minister, and it so infuriated those who envied him that they “began trying to find a ground of accusation against Daniel” (Daniel 6:4). However, their tactics had no effect. After all their searching and spying, after every attempt to dig up some dirt, “they could find no ground of accusation or evidence of corruption” anywhere (Daniel 6:4). Daniel, like Job and Joseph, walked securely. He never feared being “found out.”
What is it that these men had in common? Perfection? No, each person I have named was far from perfect. Easy times? Hardly. A closer look will reveal heartaches and hardships that would make our challenges pale in comparison! Well, how about an impressive presence, carefully choreographed by a handful of clever public-image specialists and marketing experts? Well, you know the answer to that one! Perhaps it was their ability to sway the people with their rhetoric. That would be wrong also. We can dream up a half dozen other possibilities that some might suggest, but they would be as far off target as the four I’ve mentioned. What they had in common was character. Each man I have selected from the Scriptures had high moral character. It is easy to overlook that essential ingredient among leaders in our times. That ought to be our goal as well. I wonder, if your life were to be a nationally televised special, with nothing hidden, how would you fare? Now, don’t go digging up the past. Stay rooted with me in the present. Regardless of what your past looks like, your present can be clean and free of all recrimination in Christ. Will you turn to him now for forgiveness and a fresh start at developing and maintaining character? It’s the only way to have security!
Read the bold verse again. If ever there was a need for security it is now. Our day is filled with uncertainty, challenge, and struggle. Job lived in that kind of world and yet the Scripture says that he was “secure.” In fact, by the time we see Job; he had reared his family, established himself in the business world, and gotten up in years. He had become “the greatest of all the men of the east” (Job 1:3). When people mentioned his name, feelings of respect arose, for the man was “upright, fearing God and turning away from evil” (1:1). Job walked securely. Similar things were said of Joseph. Though young, he became Potiphar’s “personal servant” and later was put in charge over all Potiphar owned, both “in the house and in the field” (Genesis 39:5). Whether before the workers or handling large sums of money or serving a large group of guests or all alone in the home with Potiphar’s wife, Joseph could be trusted. He walked securely, free of skeletons in his closet. Daniel also comes to mind. He distinguished himself among his peers because “he possessed an extraordinary spirit” (Daniel 6:3), which was observed by his superior, King Darius. He came up for promotion to prime minister, and it so infuriated those who envied him that they “began trying to find a ground of accusation against Daniel” (Daniel 6:4). However, their tactics had no effect. After all their searching and spying, after every attempt to dig up some dirt, “they could find no ground of accusation or evidence of corruption” anywhere (Daniel 6:4). Daniel, like Job and Joseph, walked securely. He never feared being “found out.”
What is it that these men had in common? Perfection? No, each person I have named was far from perfect. Easy times? Hardly. A closer look will reveal heartaches and hardships that would make our challenges pale in comparison! Well, how about an impressive presence, carefully choreographed by a handful of clever public-image specialists and marketing experts? Well, you know the answer to that one! Perhaps it was their ability to sway the people with their rhetoric. That would be wrong also. We can dream up a half dozen other possibilities that some might suggest, but they would be as far off target as the four I’ve mentioned. What they had in common was character. Each man I have selected from the Scriptures had high moral character. It is easy to overlook that essential ingredient among leaders in our times. That ought to be our goal as well. I wonder, if your life were to be a nationally televised special, with nothing hidden, how would you fare? Now, don’t go digging up the past. Stay rooted with me in the present. Regardless of what your past looks like, your present can be clean and free of all recrimination in Christ. Will you turn to him now for forgiveness and a fresh start at developing and maintaining character? It’s the only way to have security!
"Tail Gunner"
I got an email from one of my cousins and while it was very funny, it was also a point of inspiration. Yesterday was one of those days. Murphy’s Law was working overtime! If it could go wrong, it did! Well, anyway, today is better. I woke up on this side of the dirt and God is still in control. You gotta smile! Well, let me get to the story. Here’s the email that Jimmy Emmitte sent to me:
Chuck was sitting in an airplane when another fellow took a seat beside him. The new guy was an absolute wreck...pale, hands shaking, biting his nails and moaning in fear. "Hey pal, what's the matter?" Chuck asked. "Oh man.... I've been transferred to Texas ," the other guy answered, "there's crazy people in Texas ....and they have shootings, gangs, race riots, drugs, high crime rate...." "Hold on," Chuck interrupted, "I've lived in Texas all my life and it is not as bad as the media says. Find a nice home, go to work, mind your own business, enroll your kids in a good school and it's as safe as anywhere in the world." The other passenger relaxed and stopped shaking for a moment and said, "Oh thank you. I've been worried to death but if you live there and say it's OK, I'll take your word for it. What do you do for a living?" "Me?" said Chuck, "Oh, I'm a tail gunner on a bread truck in Laredo."
You laughed… admit it. But here’s the truth in the humor: We all fear the unknown. One of Satan’s best weapons is to get us to focus on the future and all of the dark corners that lurk in our path forward. The truth is that God knows our every step and will light every inch of the way. We are in the best of care when we trust in Him. Here’s what Isaiah told Israel in the face of overwhelming odds from invading nations:
I took you from the ends of the earth; from its farthest corners I called you. I said, 'You are my servant'; I have chosen you and have not rejected you. So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand. "All who rage against you will surely be ashamed and disgraced; those who oppose you will be as nothing and perish. Though you search for your enemies, you will not find them. Those who wage war against you will be as nothing at all. For I am the Lord, your God, who takes hold of your right hand and says to you, do not fear; I will help you. (Isaiah 41:9-13 NIV).
Being a tail gunner on a B-17 Flying Fortress was a lonely existence, much like the ball turret gunner. The gunner sat at the very tail end of the plane in a tight location always looking to the rear. In addition to being the gunner he was also the eyes for the rest of the crew and could give a heads up on approaching enemy aircraft. It was the most crucial of positions! They protected the entire crew at their most vulnerable point. Well, here’s the point: the Lord is our Tail Gunner! And, he doesn’t miss! So, whether you live in Texas or Tennessee, or anywhere else on this earth, he takes your right hand and says, “Do not fear!”
Chuck was sitting in an airplane when another fellow took a seat beside him. The new guy was an absolute wreck...pale, hands shaking, biting his nails and moaning in fear. "Hey pal, what's the matter?" Chuck asked. "Oh man.... I've been transferred to Texas ," the other guy answered, "there's crazy people in Texas ....and they have shootings, gangs, race riots, drugs, high crime rate...." "Hold on," Chuck interrupted, "I've lived in Texas all my life and it is not as bad as the media says. Find a nice home, go to work, mind your own business, enroll your kids in a good school and it's as safe as anywhere in the world." The other passenger relaxed and stopped shaking for a moment and said, "Oh thank you. I've been worried to death but if you live there and say it's OK, I'll take your word for it. What do you do for a living?" "Me?" said Chuck, "Oh, I'm a tail gunner on a bread truck in Laredo."
You laughed… admit it. But here’s the truth in the humor: We all fear the unknown. One of Satan’s best weapons is to get us to focus on the future and all of the dark corners that lurk in our path forward. The truth is that God knows our every step and will light every inch of the way. We are in the best of care when we trust in Him. Here’s what Isaiah told Israel in the face of overwhelming odds from invading nations:
I took you from the ends of the earth; from its farthest corners I called you. I said, 'You are my servant'; I have chosen you and have not rejected you. So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand. "All who rage against you will surely be ashamed and disgraced; those who oppose you will be as nothing and perish. Though you search for your enemies, you will not find them. Those who wage war against you will be as nothing at all. For I am the Lord, your God, who takes hold of your right hand and says to you, do not fear; I will help you. (Isaiah 41:9-13 NIV).
Being a tail gunner on a B-17 Flying Fortress was a lonely existence, much like the ball turret gunner. The gunner sat at the very tail end of the plane in a tight location always looking to the rear. In addition to being the gunner he was also the eyes for the rest of the crew and could give a heads up on approaching enemy aircraft. It was the most crucial of positions! They protected the entire crew at their most vulnerable point. Well, here’s the point: the Lord is our Tail Gunner! And, he doesn’t miss! So, whether you live in Texas or Tennessee, or anywhere else on this earth, he takes your right hand and says, “Do not fear!”
"The Carpenter's Rule"
Jesus left there and went to his hometown, accompanied by his disciples. When the Sabbath came, he began to teach in the synagogue, and many who heard him were amazed. "Where did this man get these things?" they asked. "What's this wisdom that has been given him, that he even does miracles! Isn't this the carpenter? (Mark 6:1-3 NIV).
Everyone knows that Joseph was a carpenter and that he was called "a righteous man," but we seldom think about the wisdom he handed down to Jesus. In ancient times, it was customary for a son to follow his father into his trade. Joseph practiced his trade in the small village of Nazareth, but he probably worked in nearby towns as well. Undoubtedly Jesus learned the trade from Joseph and worked with him before he began his public ministry. This is certainly the reference in our reading today as he returned to his hometown of Nazareth to teach the Gospel. The people in the synagogue had a difficult time getting past his former life, asking, "Isn't this the carpenter?" They would have done well to have understood the wisdom that Jesus had from that experience. There are some rules that every carpenter follows:
1. The first is measure twice, cut once. Wood was scarce in ancient Israel. Joseph and his apprentice Jesus couldn't afford to make mistakes. They learned to proceed with caution, anticipating the consequences of everything they did. It's a wise principle for our lives, too. Thinking ahead prevents a lot of trouble. We should measure our spending against our income and not exceed it. We should measure our physical health and take steps to protect it. We should measure our spiritual growth and work to increase it. Just like the timber in ancient Israel, our resources are limited, use them wisely.
2. The second is use the right tool for the job. Joseph wouldn't have tried to pound with a chisel or drill a hole with an ax. Every carpenter has a special tool for each task. So it is with us. Don't use indifference when understanding is called for. Don't use condescension when encouragement is needed. We can build people up or tear them down, depending on which tools we use. Jesus gave people hope. He wasn't embarrassed to show love and compassion. He was a master at using the right tools, and as his apprentices, we should do the same.
3. The third is to take care of your tools and they'll take care of you. Joseph's livelihood depended on his tools. We also have the tools of prayer, meditation, fasting, worship, and praise. Our most valuable tool, of course, is the Scripture. If we use these tools correctly, God will take care of us. God has given us all the tools and resources we need. Work for God with your head, your hands, and your heart and you can't go wrong.
Everyone knows that Joseph was a carpenter and that he was called "a righteous man," but we seldom think about the wisdom he handed down to Jesus. In ancient times, it was customary for a son to follow his father into his trade. Joseph practiced his trade in the small village of Nazareth, but he probably worked in nearby towns as well. Undoubtedly Jesus learned the trade from Joseph and worked with him before he began his public ministry. This is certainly the reference in our reading today as he returned to his hometown of Nazareth to teach the Gospel. The people in the synagogue had a difficult time getting past his former life, asking, "Isn't this the carpenter?" They would have done well to have understood the wisdom that Jesus had from that experience. There are some rules that every carpenter follows:
1. The first is measure twice, cut once. Wood was scarce in ancient Israel. Joseph and his apprentice Jesus couldn't afford to make mistakes. They learned to proceed with caution, anticipating the consequences of everything they did. It's a wise principle for our lives, too. Thinking ahead prevents a lot of trouble. We should measure our spending against our income and not exceed it. We should measure our physical health and take steps to protect it. We should measure our spiritual growth and work to increase it. Just like the timber in ancient Israel, our resources are limited, use them wisely.
2. The second is use the right tool for the job. Joseph wouldn't have tried to pound with a chisel or drill a hole with an ax. Every carpenter has a special tool for each task. So it is with us. Don't use indifference when understanding is called for. Don't use condescension when encouragement is needed. We can build people up or tear them down, depending on which tools we use. Jesus gave people hope. He wasn't embarrassed to show love and compassion. He was a master at using the right tools, and as his apprentices, we should do the same.
3. The third is to take care of your tools and they'll take care of you. Joseph's livelihood depended on his tools. We also have the tools of prayer, meditation, fasting, worship, and praise. Our most valuable tool, of course, is the Scripture. If we use these tools correctly, God will take care of us. God has given us all the tools and resources we need. Work for God with your head, your hands, and your heart and you can't go wrong.
Sunday, May 16, 2010
"Happy Birthday, Brandy!"
Today is Brandy’s birthday and Wedding Anniversary! Some of you may be new to Morning Devotionals and are not familiar with my practice to use the special days of my family members to inspire the days’ thoughts. Brandy is Kyle’s wife, mom to the twins, Faith and Logan. I have two daughters-in-law, Brandy and Becca. I am proud to be able to call both of them members of my family. Today I honor Brandy with a thought centered on her name.
There are two origins that catch my attention. The first is actually from the Italian surname of Brandi. The meaning is “sword.” The other is more Americanized, and it means “beacon of light.” Both have application when I think of the tremendous influence that she has had with both my son and grandchildren. It calls me to the following Scripture:
She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come. She speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue. She watches over the affairs of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness. Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: "Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all." (Proverbs 31:25-29 NIV).
Perhaps the greatest attributes any of us could aspire to possess are in the area of our family. For a very long time I have been committed to the restoration of the family according to the Biblical design God reveals to us. That involves wisdom and faithful instruction. I remember days long ago, when Kyle and Brandy were still in high school. They were dating in those days. Almost anyone who knew them very well picked them to eventually marry. It was no surprise and a complete delight when they formally made their announcement to us. I knew she would be a great wife to our son. And years later when the news of the birth of Faith and Logan, I can say with complete confidence that there was never a concern that she would not be a great mom. The years have proven me correct.
But why? What lessons can we learn so that we can be the kinds of spouse and parents that God would have us to be? Look again at the two phrases: wisdom and faith instruction. When I think of “sword,” I think of the sword of the Spirit which is the word of God. And, doesn’t that fit perfectly with faithful instruction? If you want to be the kind of parent God desires, then practice wise instruction with your children. Love them without boundaries. Teach them consistently. Accept them without prejudice. When you do these things, you can be a beacon of light to them. You can lead them through the challenges of life with success and victory. I am grateful that is the path Brandy has chosen. Happy Birthday, Brandy! Happy Anniversary to both Kyle and Brandy! Thanks for being the sword and beacon of light in your family!
There are two origins that catch my attention. The first is actually from the Italian surname of Brandi. The meaning is “sword.” The other is more Americanized, and it means “beacon of light.” Both have application when I think of the tremendous influence that she has had with both my son and grandchildren. It calls me to the following Scripture:
She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come. She speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue. She watches over the affairs of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness. Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: "Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all." (Proverbs 31:25-29 NIV).
Perhaps the greatest attributes any of us could aspire to possess are in the area of our family. For a very long time I have been committed to the restoration of the family according to the Biblical design God reveals to us. That involves wisdom and faithful instruction. I remember days long ago, when Kyle and Brandy were still in high school. They were dating in those days. Almost anyone who knew them very well picked them to eventually marry. It was no surprise and a complete delight when they formally made their announcement to us. I knew she would be a great wife to our son. And years later when the news of the birth of Faith and Logan, I can say with complete confidence that there was never a concern that she would not be a great mom. The years have proven me correct.
But why? What lessons can we learn so that we can be the kinds of spouse and parents that God would have us to be? Look again at the two phrases: wisdom and faith instruction. When I think of “sword,” I think of the sword of the Spirit which is the word of God. And, doesn’t that fit perfectly with faithful instruction? If you want to be the kind of parent God desires, then practice wise instruction with your children. Love them without boundaries. Teach them consistently. Accept them without prejudice. When you do these things, you can be a beacon of light to them. You can lead them through the challenges of life with success and victory. I am grateful that is the path Brandy has chosen. Happy Birthday, Brandy! Happy Anniversary to both Kyle and Brandy! Thanks for being the sword and beacon of light in your family!
Saturday, May 15, 2010
"Only Half Left"
But if Christ is in you, your body is dead because of sin, yet your spirit is alive because of righteousness. And if the Spirit of him who raised Jesus from the dead is living in you, he who raised Christ from the dead will also give life to your mortal bodies through his Spirit, who lives in you. (Romans 8:10-11 NIV).
I hope the devotionals these past few days have encouraged you in your family. I have received notes from many of you concerning your joys and sorrows. I will be praying for you and have already responded personally to many of you. However, the following note from one of my dear friends who lost his wife three years ago prompts me to say a few things about the loss and sorrow that accompanies death. Perhaps it will be helpful to you. He wrote the following:
Becoming a widower is for some worse than divorce. Saturday, May 15th will be three years that my dearest has been HOME. Only Half Left…
Most of you have probably heard the proverb, "Time heals all wounds." It is not surprising that people would say this, because there are many afflictions that do heal over time. Given enough time, bleeding stops; chigger bites quit itching; babies are delivered; headaches cease; the dentist stops drilling; and people recover from colds, flu, and many other afflictions. Time also helps us to deal with ongoing afflictions. The loss of a limb is a very severe thing, and it would be heartless to speak of getting over it. Yet, even with this kind of loss, people learn, over time, to adjust to their new circumstances. Some people also attempt to apply this principle to the loss of a loved one. Even as you stand grieving over the one you have buried, they say, "Time heals all wounds." That’s simply not true!
That being said, we are not hopeless or helpless. The world can burn candles, create memorials, and cherish memories, as can the Christian. They can gather with friends and family and talk about the old times. But only the Christian has access to that true and lasting comfort that is available through Christ alone. That’s the Source of strength and hope for the future. My friend knows this. His wife is “home,” and someday he will join her again never to be separated. That hope is anchored in the grace of Christ and His work of redemption.
So, I offer these words in the effort to comfort you in your loss, whatever it may be: Christ will give life to your mortal bodies; you will be whole again! Lean on your friends and family. Immerse yourself in the love of God that you find in others who have walked your path and discovered His grace. There is a day coming, and soon, when all of this will be put behind us in the glory of His coming again! You may be “only half left,” but you will be one again!
I hope the devotionals these past few days have encouraged you in your family. I have received notes from many of you concerning your joys and sorrows. I will be praying for you and have already responded personally to many of you. However, the following note from one of my dear friends who lost his wife three years ago prompts me to say a few things about the loss and sorrow that accompanies death. Perhaps it will be helpful to you. He wrote the following:
Becoming a widower is for some worse than divorce. Saturday, May 15th will be three years that my dearest has been HOME. Only Half Left…
Most of you have probably heard the proverb, "Time heals all wounds." It is not surprising that people would say this, because there are many afflictions that do heal over time. Given enough time, bleeding stops; chigger bites quit itching; babies are delivered; headaches cease; the dentist stops drilling; and people recover from colds, flu, and many other afflictions. Time also helps us to deal with ongoing afflictions. The loss of a limb is a very severe thing, and it would be heartless to speak of getting over it. Yet, even with this kind of loss, people learn, over time, to adjust to their new circumstances. Some people also attempt to apply this principle to the loss of a loved one. Even as you stand grieving over the one you have buried, they say, "Time heals all wounds." That’s simply not true!
That being said, we are not hopeless or helpless. The world can burn candles, create memorials, and cherish memories, as can the Christian. They can gather with friends and family and talk about the old times. But only the Christian has access to that true and lasting comfort that is available through Christ alone. That’s the Source of strength and hope for the future. My friend knows this. His wife is “home,” and someday he will join her again never to be separated. That hope is anchored in the grace of Christ and His work of redemption.
So, I offer these words in the effort to comfort you in your loss, whatever it may be: Christ will give life to your mortal bodies; you will be whole again! Lean on your friends and family. Immerse yourself in the love of God that you find in others who have walked your path and discovered His grace. There is a day coming, and soon, when all of this will be put behind us in the glory of His coming again! You may be “only half left,” but you will be one again!
Friday, May 14, 2010
"A Happy Marriage" (Part 4)
As the Scriptures say, “A man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.” This is a great mystery, but it is an illustration of the way Christ and the church are one. So again I say, each man must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband. (Ephesians 5:31-33 NLT).
The Apostle Paul says: So again I say, each man must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband. Love and respect are the keys to A Happy Marriage! Let me give you ten suggestions that will help you put this principle into effect.
1. First, practice forgiveness. In fact, you should make it your goal to be the first to forgive in any situation, even if you are the one offended. Failing to forgive produces bitterness and resentment.
2. Second, learn how to say “I’m sorry” quickly and genuinely. Molehills are a lot easier to deal with than mountains. The longer you delay in dealing with an offense the bigger it becomes.
3. Third, keep your eyes on your spouse alone. Sounds a lot easier than it really is in practice. We are deluged with lustful images on a daily basis. Make it your practice to never let your eyes wander from your spouse.
4. Fourth, don’t talk to others about your spouse’s faults. If you have issues with your spouse, then talk to them, not to others.
5. Fifth, put your spouse’s needs ahead of your own. Sacrifice ought to be normal in your relationship with one another. The more you give, the more you will get.
6. Sixth, never threaten your relationship. Not even with humor! It is devastating to a relationship to live under even the slightest hint of threat. Express your commitment often and fully.
7. Seventh, give your spouse at least one compliment every day. A good old atta-boy goes a long way to build encouragement and love. Your spouse should never need to ask for a compliment. Give it freely.
8. Eighth, do all the important things together. And, if you have any doubt whether it is an “important thing,” ask.
9. Ninth, worship together. If I have any regrets through thirty years of being a pastor, it is that I was not ever really able to sit with my wife and children in worship. Having that privilege now is an incredible blessing!
10. Tenth, say “I love you” at least once a day. Be creative in your expressions. Don’t let that phrase become a rote exercise of meaningless words. And, don’t think that the many things you do are the same as saying the words!
There’s a lot more we could look at. And, I know that every situation has a unique set of challenges that bring with them unique solutions. These are some general observations that have worked in many marriages. I hope they will work for you.
Of course, all of it is predicated on your experience with Christ. If you are not a born again believer, you must start there. If you have any doubts about your relationship with Christ, please email or call me. Settle that first!
The Apostle Paul says: So again I say, each man must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband. Love and respect are the keys to A Happy Marriage! Let me give you ten suggestions that will help you put this principle into effect.
1. First, practice forgiveness. In fact, you should make it your goal to be the first to forgive in any situation, even if you are the one offended. Failing to forgive produces bitterness and resentment.
2. Second, learn how to say “I’m sorry” quickly and genuinely. Molehills are a lot easier to deal with than mountains. The longer you delay in dealing with an offense the bigger it becomes.
3. Third, keep your eyes on your spouse alone. Sounds a lot easier than it really is in practice. We are deluged with lustful images on a daily basis. Make it your practice to never let your eyes wander from your spouse.
4. Fourth, don’t talk to others about your spouse’s faults. If you have issues with your spouse, then talk to them, not to others.
5. Fifth, put your spouse’s needs ahead of your own. Sacrifice ought to be normal in your relationship with one another. The more you give, the more you will get.
6. Sixth, never threaten your relationship. Not even with humor! It is devastating to a relationship to live under even the slightest hint of threat. Express your commitment often and fully.
7. Seventh, give your spouse at least one compliment every day. A good old atta-boy goes a long way to build encouragement and love. Your spouse should never need to ask for a compliment. Give it freely.
8. Eighth, do all the important things together. And, if you have any doubt whether it is an “important thing,” ask.
9. Ninth, worship together. If I have any regrets through thirty years of being a pastor, it is that I was not ever really able to sit with my wife and children in worship. Having that privilege now is an incredible blessing!
10. Tenth, say “I love you” at least once a day. Be creative in your expressions. Don’t let that phrase become a rote exercise of meaningless words. And, don’t think that the many things you do are the same as saying the words!
There’s a lot more we could look at. And, I know that every situation has a unique set of challenges that bring with them unique solutions. These are some general observations that have worked in many marriages. I hope they will work for you.
Of course, all of it is predicated on your experience with Christ. If you are not a born again believer, you must start there. If you have any doubts about your relationship with Christ, please email or call me. Settle that first!
Thursday, May 13, 2010
"A Happy Marriage" (Part 3)
As the Scriptures say, “A man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.” This is a great mystery, but it is an illustration of the way Christ and the church are one. So again I say, each man must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband. (Ephesians 5:31-33 NLT).
Let’s revisit yesterday’s thought. Happiness should not be the primary goal of marriage. Look at some statistics again. Marriages in America are in a horrendous mess. Although 93% of Americans rate having a happy marriage as one of their most important objectives in life, and more than 70% believe that marriage involves a lifelong commitment that should be ended only under extreme circumstances, couples marrying for the first time in the US continue to face a 50% chance of divorcing, with approximately two-thirds of these divorces occurring within five to seven years of marriage. Equally disturbing is that many distressed couples never divorce, remaining in unsatisfying and/or conflicted relationships. At least one researcher suggests that fewer than half of the marriages that avoid divorce can be described as truly happy! Rutgers sociologists Dr. David Popenoe and Dr. Barbara Defoe Whitehead confirm these grim facts in their report on marriage titled, The State of Our Unions—The Social Health of Marriage in America, showing that key social indicators suggest a substantial weakening of the institution of marriage.
And, some folks have asked me why I believe the family is in desperate need of restoration! I have never felt a stronger call to be a part of the movement of God in restoring the family. It is the driving force that is calling me to establish Grace Restoration Ministries as an outlet to bring grace to both the family and the church. (For more about that, please visit the web site at www.gracerestoration.org). Thanks to Hollywood characters and celebrities who promote the benefits of single parenthood, being a married parent is no longer viewed as the ideal for raising a family. How could we have come to the point that marriage has diminished to a relationship entered for the sole purpose of meeting the sexual and emotional needs of each partner? Today the goal in marriage has become personal satisfaction. “Will my needs get met? What’s in it for me?” And the biggest question of all: “Will it be pleasurable for me?” If the marriage no longer meets the personal needs of partners, they move on to the next relationship. So what’s the solution? I’m convinced that once we understand and commit to God’s purpose in marriage instead using it for self-satisfaction, serious marriage problems will diminish greatly.
Though it seems paradoxical, this means if you want a satisfying marriage you’ve got to forget about happiness. I don’t mean that you should want to be unhappy. In fact, I don’t think that’s possible. Everyone wants to be happy. And because we want so much to be happy, we naturally make happiness our goal and set out to find the things we think will make us happy. The problem is that happiness never comes when you make it the goal. It’s like a mirage. It shimmers invitingly in the sunlight until you reach it, and then it vanishes. You can’t go to happiness; happiness must come to you. And it only comes as a by-product of achieving a higher goal. Happiness doesn’t work as a goal, because meeting our terms for happiness depends on what happens around us. It requires just the right circumstances and the cooperation of other people. Unfortunately, those circumstances seldom align. That cooperation rarely happens. Furthermore, when a marriage is all about finding happiness, it creates dependency as we turn to our mate or require ideal circumstances to meet our expectations. And that dependency puts a heavy burden on the mate. It’s true that we do have something inside that is seeking completeness and fulfillment. We all yearn to connect to a source that can fulfill all our needs. But the problem comes when we misdirect that search toward the wrong object. Your mate is not that source. God, through a personal relationship with Jesus Christ, can be the only source of happiness. Stay tuned tomorrow and we’ll look at some practical steps to accomplishing this.
Let’s revisit yesterday’s thought. Happiness should not be the primary goal of marriage. Look at some statistics again. Marriages in America are in a horrendous mess. Although 93% of Americans rate having a happy marriage as one of their most important objectives in life, and more than 70% believe that marriage involves a lifelong commitment that should be ended only under extreme circumstances, couples marrying for the first time in the US continue to face a 50% chance of divorcing, with approximately two-thirds of these divorces occurring within five to seven years of marriage. Equally disturbing is that many distressed couples never divorce, remaining in unsatisfying and/or conflicted relationships. At least one researcher suggests that fewer than half of the marriages that avoid divorce can be described as truly happy! Rutgers sociologists Dr. David Popenoe and Dr. Barbara Defoe Whitehead confirm these grim facts in their report on marriage titled, The State of Our Unions—The Social Health of Marriage in America, showing that key social indicators suggest a substantial weakening of the institution of marriage.
And, some folks have asked me why I believe the family is in desperate need of restoration! I have never felt a stronger call to be a part of the movement of God in restoring the family. It is the driving force that is calling me to establish Grace Restoration Ministries as an outlet to bring grace to both the family and the church. (For more about that, please visit the web site at www.gracerestoration.org). Thanks to Hollywood characters and celebrities who promote the benefits of single parenthood, being a married parent is no longer viewed as the ideal for raising a family. How could we have come to the point that marriage has diminished to a relationship entered for the sole purpose of meeting the sexual and emotional needs of each partner? Today the goal in marriage has become personal satisfaction. “Will my needs get met? What’s in it for me?” And the biggest question of all: “Will it be pleasurable for me?” If the marriage no longer meets the personal needs of partners, they move on to the next relationship. So what’s the solution? I’m convinced that once we understand and commit to God’s purpose in marriage instead using it for self-satisfaction, serious marriage problems will diminish greatly.
Though it seems paradoxical, this means if you want a satisfying marriage you’ve got to forget about happiness. I don’t mean that you should want to be unhappy. In fact, I don’t think that’s possible. Everyone wants to be happy. And because we want so much to be happy, we naturally make happiness our goal and set out to find the things we think will make us happy. The problem is that happiness never comes when you make it the goal. It’s like a mirage. It shimmers invitingly in the sunlight until you reach it, and then it vanishes. You can’t go to happiness; happiness must come to you. And it only comes as a by-product of achieving a higher goal. Happiness doesn’t work as a goal, because meeting our terms for happiness depends on what happens around us. It requires just the right circumstances and the cooperation of other people. Unfortunately, those circumstances seldom align. That cooperation rarely happens. Furthermore, when a marriage is all about finding happiness, it creates dependency as we turn to our mate or require ideal circumstances to meet our expectations. And that dependency puts a heavy burden on the mate. It’s true that we do have something inside that is seeking completeness and fulfillment. We all yearn to connect to a source that can fulfill all our needs. But the problem comes when we misdirect that search toward the wrong object. Your mate is not that source. God, through a personal relationship with Jesus Christ, can be the only source of happiness. Stay tuned tomorrow and we’ll look at some practical steps to accomplishing this.
Wednesday, May 12, 2010
"A Happy Marriage" (Part 2)
As the Scriptures say, “A man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.” This is a great mystery, but it is an illustration of the way Christ and the church are one. So again I say, each man must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband. (Ephesians 5:31-33 NLT).
Again I want to begin with a statement that I understand there are those divorces that were either unavoidable or justified by the actions of one of the spouses. Of course I would never say that a marriage should continue when one of the partners was abusive and refused restoration or change. And, of course, there are those times when one of the partners simply walks away without giving restoration a chance. I heard some of the shallowest reasons for pursuing a divorce in my years of counseling. However, I have also seen two people work hard to restore their marriage and the fruit that is born from that is incredible!
So, let me start with some basics in the area of expectations. A good beginning usually insures a good finish. Paul talks about loving and respecting one another in our reading today. It always baffles me a bit that couples usually don’t think about that part of their relationship until the shiny wears off! Most couples enter marriage hoping to achieve happiness. While there is nothing basically wring with that, it can set us up for unfulfilled expectations due to misunderstanding of what happiness really looks like in practice. For each of us, that vision of happiness takes a different form. Maybe you longed to be whole or competed; to have perfect kids, and a family that everyone looks up to; to live securely and comfortably; to have someone always there so you wouldn’t feel lonely, abandoned, rejected, or sad. Your goal may have been to satisfy your sexual desires; for your mate to be the lover who would love you the way you always wanted to be loved. In other words, you expected to find your “soul mate” in your husband or wife. That doesn’t sound unreasonable, does it?
It may surprise you to read that I believe that your marriage is in big trouble when you pursue these goals. If happiness or finding your soul mate is the objective, you are more than likely setting yourself up for failure and possibly facing years of hurt and frustration. When the marriage does not fulfill your expectations you’ll wonder if there is something wrong with you or with your mate. Sadly, a person may often ask, “Did I marry the wrong person?” This kind of disappointment hits most couples shortly after the wedding because each partner begins to see faults and chinks in the armor of the other. The shiny begins to wear off! They begin to think that new husband or wife really needs some work. It appears that she is far from ready to meet all his needs and expectations. Instead of being sold out to her ideas of marriage, he came with his own goals, expecting her to be sold out to his. So your goal of finding happiness in your soul mate must be put aside until you change your spouse into the person you want him or her to be. You buy into the myth that will not die, that if your mate would change just a few key things, your marriage would be great. That is the foundational lie that leads many marriages to failure.
So, if happiness isn’t the goal, what is? The key is in the illustration that Paul uses. A marriage is to be patterned after the relationship that Jesus has with the Church. The marriage is about the other person. It is about sacrifice from both partners to the other. Whoever said that a marriage was to be 50-50 was crazy! It is 100-100! We ought to give to one another everything we have to give, all of the time we can give, in every way we can give. Oh, one other thing, that will produce real happiness. It’s just that the goal is entirely different. Set your commitment to be one with your spouse. We’ll look more at that tomorrow. Today, pray that the Lord would show you more and more how to be like He is toward the Church!
Again I want to begin with a statement that I understand there are those divorces that were either unavoidable or justified by the actions of one of the spouses. Of course I would never say that a marriage should continue when one of the partners was abusive and refused restoration or change. And, of course, there are those times when one of the partners simply walks away without giving restoration a chance. I heard some of the shallowest reasons for pursuing a divorce in my years of counseling. However, I have also seen two people work hard to restore their marriage and the fruit that is born from that is incredible!
So, let me start with some basics in the area of expectations. A good beginning usually insures a good finish. Paul talks about loving and respecting one another in our reading today. It always baffles me a bit that couples usually don’t think about that part of their relationship until the shiny wears off! Most couples enter marriage hoping to achieve happiness. While there is nothing basically wring with that, it can set us up for unfulfilled expectations due to misunderstanding of what happiness really looks like in practice. For each of us, that vision of happiness takes a different form. Maybe you longed to be whole or competed; to have perfect kids, and a family that everyone looks up to; to live securely and comfortably; to have someone always there so you wouldn’t feel lonely, abandoned, rejected, or sad. Your goal may have been to satisfy your sexual desires; for your mate to be the lover who would love you the way you always wanted to be loved. In other words, you expected to find your “soul mate” in your husband or wife. That doesn’t sound unreasonable, does it?
It may surprise you to read that I believe that your marriage is in big trouble when you pursue these goals. If happiness or finding your soul mate is the objective, you are more than likely setting yourself up for failure and possibly facing years of hurt and frustration. When the marriage does not fulfill your expectations you’ll wonder if there is something wrong with you or with your mate. Sadly, a person may often ask, “Did I marry the wrong person?” This kind of disappointment hits most couples shortly after the wedding because each partner begins to see faults and chinks in the armor of the other. The shiny begins to wear off! They begin to think that new husband or wife really needs some work. It appears that she is far from ready to meet all his needs and expectations. Instead of being sold out to her ideas of marriage, he came with his own goals, expecting her to be sold out to his. So your goal of finding happiness in your soul mate must be put aside until you change your spouse into the person you want him or her to be. You buy into the myth that will not die, that if your mate would change just a few key things, your marriage would be great. That is the foundational lie that leads many marriages to failure.
So, if happiness isn’t the goal, what is? The key is in the illustration that Paul uses. A marriage is to be patterned after the relationship that Jesus has with the Church. The marriage is about the other person. It is about sacrifice from both partners to the other. Whoever said that a marriage was to be 50-50 was crazy! It is 100-100! We ought to give to one another everything we have to give, all of the time we can give, in every way we can give. Oh, one other thing, that will produce real happiness. It’s just that the goal is entirely different. Set your commitment to be one with your spouse. We’ll look more at that tomorrow. Today, pray that the Lord would show you more and more how to be like He is toward the Church!
Tuesday, May 11, 2010
"A Happy Marriage" (Part 1)
Some Pharisees came and tried to trap him with this question: “Should a man be allowed to divorce his wife for just any reason?” “Haven’t you read the Scriptures?” Jesus replied. “They record that from the beginning ‘God made them male and female.’ And he said, ‘This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.’ Since they are no longer two but one, let no one split apart what God has joined together.” (Matthew 19:3-6 NLT).
OK, let’s get serious for a few moments. First the disclaimer: I know that there are times in people’s lives when divorce happens and it is best, and perhaps only choice left; but, God’s design is that two people find themselves joined together for life. So, I want to look at how we can do all we can to insure that God’s best design is achieved. For those of you, who have already suffered the devastating effects of divorce, please know of my heart’s desire to minister to you without judgment or condemnation. God has a plan for you. I’d love to help you in your search to find it!
That being said, let’s look at some specifics. The statistics are incredible. Both inside and outside the circle of church membership, the divorce rate is about 50% of first time marriages ending in divorce! The question must be asked… why? Did you notice the phrase in our reading today: for just any reason? In Jesus’ day it was very common for men to “put their wives out” for any reason. Maybe they simply didn’t do the housework to their satisfaction. That could be grounds for divorce. Now, before you begin to snicker, haven’t we done about the same thing today with our “no fault” divorce, or as the law might describe the reason as “incompatibility”?
Jesus goes back to the beginning with Adam and Eve. We should too. Remember that when God created Adam, he was given the opportunity to look at and name every animal that God had created (Genesis 2:18-20). Yet, there wasn’t one other created thing that satisfied Adam’s need to be complete. God then created woman from Adam and immediately he knew it was perfect. Adam exclaimed, “At last! This one is bone from my bone, and flesh from my flesh!” The concept of “one flesh” is used in other places in the Scripture. The concept is very clear. It means that one is not complete without the other. It is as if you try to slice a coin so thin as to have only a heads or a tails. It is impossible. That’s the case with a marriage. The two become inseparable. They are so because one cannot effectively exist without the other.
About at this point, some of you are saying, “You don’t know my ex. I’m doing a lot better without them.” Perhaps so, but it still doesn’t change the fact that God created us to be joined with that perfect match forever. The real key is in understanding what makes it “perfect.” In the next few days, we’ll look at that. Today, let me merely state that God’s desire in marriage is for the husband and wife to be one with the other. That takes grace, commitment, hard work, and a true understanding of what love is and isn’t. Ask God to give you wisdom as we explore this key element of our spiritual lives. If we don’t get the family right, nothing else will be right!
OK, let’s get serious for a few moments. First the disclaimer: I know that there are times in people’s lives when divorce happens and it is best, and perhaps only choice left; but, God’s design is that two people find themselves joined together for life. So, I want to look at how we can do all we can to insure that God’s best design is achieved. For those of you, who have already suffered the devastating effects of divorce, please know of my heart’s desire to minister to you without judgment or condemnation. God has a plan for you. I’d love to help you in your search to find it!
That being said, let’s look at some specifics. The statistics are incredible. Both inside and outside the circle of church membership, the divorce rate is about 50% of first time marriages ending in divorce! The question must be asked… why? Did you notice the phrase in our reading today: for just any reason? In Jesus’ day it was very common for men to “put their wives out” for any reason. Maybe they simply didn’t do the housework to their satisfaction. That could be grounds for divorce. Now, before you begin to snicker, haven’t we done about the same thing today with our “no fault” divorce, or as the law might describe the reason as “incompatibility”?
Jesus goes back to the beginning with Adam and Eve. We should too. Remember that when God created Adam, he was given the opportunity to look at and name every animal that God had created (Genesis 2:18-20). Yet, there wasn’t one other created thing that satisfied Adam’s need to be complete. God then created woman from Adam and immediately he knew it was perfect. Adam exclaimed, “At last! This one is bone from my bone, and flesh from my flesh!” The concept of “one flesh” is used in other places in the Scripture. The concept is very clear. It means that one is not complete without the other. It is as if you try to slice a coin so thin as to have only a heads or a tails. It is impossible. That’s the case with a marriage. The two become inseparable. They are so because one cannot effectively exist without the other.
About at this point, some of you are saying, “You don’t know my ex. I’m doing a lot better without them.” Perhaps so, but it still doesn’t change the fact that God created us to be joined with that perfect match forever. The real key is in understanding what makes it “perfect.” In the next few days, we’ll look at that. Today, let me merely state that God’s desire in marriage is for the husband and wife to be one with the other. That takes grace, commitment, hard work, and a true understanding of what love is and isn’t. Ask God to give you wisdom as we explore this key element of our spiritual lives. If we don’t get the family right, nothing else will be right!
Monday, May 10, 2010
Just the Right Heat
I must confess that I am about to “bite off more than I can chew” in today’s devotional. However, I have been pondering an age-old question more than usual for the past few months and wanted to share some of the conclusions I have reached. First, I must be very clear that I do not have an answer. I still don’t have an adequate response to the “why,” although I may have some insight into the “what” of the level of suffering God allows His children to endure.
By now I’m sure you’ve guessed that the question does indeed deal with why God allows some folks to suffer more than others. Entire bookshelves have been devoted to texts attempting to answer this question. I know in this brief text I can never give adequate space to a full explanation, however, perhaps I can give you one insight that has given me some comfort in dealing with it. It centers on a truth that the Apostle Paul reveals in the following verses:
So, if you think you are standing firm, be careful that you don't fall! No temptation has seized you except what is common to man. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it. (1 Corinthians 10:12-13 NIV).
I am aware that this text references “temptation” and not “trials.” However, the principle is that God is faithful. That faithfulness results in His personal oversight to disallow anything that we are strong enough to deal with. He provides “a way out.” With that in mind, shift to trials. Why do some folks go through more pain and suffering than others? And, in asking this question, I am not talking about those who have made bad choices and are suffering under the consequences of those choices. I’m talking about the suffering that just happens, often blind-siding us. Why does God allow that to happen more to some than others? For example, why does God allow one person to be healed and not another from a devastating illness?
Well, a part of the answer may be in the kind of “pot” he is creating as the ultimate Potter. Do you know that the final temperature of the firing of the pottery is critical? Each pot needs to get enough heat to make the glaze the correct color. I am told that a variance of just 20 to 40 degrees in 2300 degrees Fahrenheit can make all the difference. If the kiln is too cool the glaze will not be pretty and if too hot it may run. Further, firing your pottery with a temperature that is too low can result in a pottery piece that is too soft and can end up getting damaged. If you fire the bisque at too high of a temperature you can end up getting a piece that is cracked or even have your piece explode. It needs just the right heat! So, let me say two things in closing. First, God is not responsible for disease and death. They are caused by the sin in the world. We live in an imperfect world that he will change someday, but has yet to be perfected. We get sick and die because of the evil brought into the world by man’s fall. Second, while God doesn’t cause it, He can use it. He uses it to make something altogether beautiful and lovely with our lives. And, He knows just the right amount of heat to allow us to endure. That knowledge makes it a little easier for me to trust him with the thermostat! I pray it does you as well!
By now I’m sure you’ve guessed that the question does indeed deal with why God allows some folks to suffer more than others. Entire bookshelves have been devoted to texts attempting to answer this question. I know in this brief text I can never give adequate space to a full explanation, however, perhaps I can give you one insight that has given me some comfort in dealing with it. It centers on a truth that the Apostle Paul reveals in the following verses:
So, if you think you are standing firm, be careful that you don't fall! No temptation has seized you except what is common to man. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it. (1 Corinthians 10:12-13 NIV).
I am aware that this text references “temptation” and not “trials.” However, the principle is that God is faithful. That faithfulness results in His personal oversight to disallow anything that we are strong enough to deal with. He provides “a way out.” With that in mind, shift to trials. Why do some folks go through more pain and suffering than others? And, in asking this question, I am not talking about those who have made bad choices and are suffering under the consequences of those choices. I’m talking about the suffering that just happens, often blind-siding us. Why does God allow that to happen more to some than others? For example, why does God allow one person to be healed and not another from a devastating illness?
Well, a part of the answer may be in the kind of “pot” he is creating as the ultimate Potter. Do you know that the final temperature of the firing of the pottery is critical? Each pot needs to get enough heat to make the glaze the correct color. I am told that a variance of just 20 to 40 degrees in 2300 degrees Fahrenheit can make all the difference. If the kiln is too cool the glaze will not be pretty and if too hot it may run. Further, firing your pottery with a temperature that is too low can result in a pottery piece that is too soft and can end up getting damaged. If you fire the bisque at too high of a temperature you can end up getting a piece that is cracked or even have your piece explode. It needs just the right heat! So, let me say two things in closing. First, God is not responsible for disease and death. They are caused by the sin in the world. We live in an imperfect world that he will change someday, but has yet to be perfected. We get sick and die because of the evil brought into the world by man’s fall. Second, while God doesn’t cause it, He can use it. He uses it to make something altogether beautiful and lovely with our lives. And, He knows just the right amount of heat to allow us to endure. That knowledge makes it a little easier for me to trust him with the thermostat! I pray it does you as well!
The Crucible of Life
The crucible for silver and the furnace for gold, but man is tested by the praise he receives (Proverbs 27:21 NIV).
Don’t you love to read Proverbs? I do. The book of Proverbs is a treasure-trove of observations, advice, admonitions, and things that make you go, “Hmm…” Our reading today definitely falls into the “Things that make you go, “Hmm…” category.
First we need a little background. A crucible is a container in which metals like silver are melted down, and the furnace renders solid gold a molten liquid. Both are permanently changed by the heat. So, that brings us to a question: How can praise change a person the way the crucible or the furnace changes silver and gold?
Our hearts deal with praise in two ways. When our hearts are geared toward God, we can accept praise from someone and realize that our gifts and the glory really belong to God. But when our hearts are geared toward the world, praise causes us to become wrapped up in ourselves. It steals any hope of an upward focus and instills the belief that we can handle life on our own apart from God, a misguided notion that Satan has foisted on humanity for eons. Praise to the self-centered heart triggers the most difficult sin to overcome: pride.
The crucible melts the silver and allows the silversmith to shape it into whatever he pleases, but the crucible doesn’t work if the metal isn’t put inside. Satan knows that pride is the one thing that will keep us from submitting to Christ. Offering yourself to Christ means checking your ego at the door, and climbing into the crucible without looking back.
The crucible tests and changes the silver; the furnace tests and changes the gold. For us, the biggest part of the test is whether or not we’ll submit to being changed. Believe me when I say that I personally understand how painful the crucible can be. However, it is the only way to be refined. It is the only way to be better! Make a commitment to trust yourself to the Master Craftsman. He knows exactly what we need and will only do what is best for us. Let Him do His work in you life today!
Don’t you love to read Proverbs? I do. The book of Proverbs is a treasure-trove of observations, advice, admonitions, and things that make you go, “Hmm…” Our reading today definitely falls into the “Things that make you go, “Hmm…” category.
First we need a little background. A crucible is a container in which metals like silver are melted down, and the furnace renders solid gold a molten liquid. Both are permanently changed by the heat. So, that brings us to a question: How can praise change a person the way the crucible or the furnace changes silver and gold?
Our hearts deal with praise in two ways. When our hearts are geared toward God, we can accept praise from someone and realize that our gifts and the glory really belong to God. But when our hearts are geared toward the world, praise causes us to become wrapped up in ourselves. It steals any hope of an upward focus and instills the belief that we can handle life on our own apart from God, a misguided notion that Satan has foisted on humanity for eons. Praise to the self-centered heart triggers the most difficult sin to overcome: pride.
The crucible melts the silver and allows the silversmith to shape it into whatever he pleases, but the crucible doesn’t work if the metal isn’t put inside. Satan knows that pride is the one thing that will keep us from submitting to Christ. Offering yourself to Christ means checking your ego at the door, and climbing into the crucible without looking back.
The crucible tests and changes the silver; the furnace tests and changes the gold. For us, the biggest part of the test is whether or not we’ll submit to being changed. Believe me when I say that I personally understand how painful the crucible can be. However, it is the only way to be refined. It is the only way to be better! Make a commitment to trust yourself to the Master Craftsman. He knows exactly what we need and will only do what is best for us. Let Him do His work in you life today!
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