The Goldilocks of Life

But let each one test his own work, and then his reason to boast will be in himself alone and not in his neighbor. (Galatians 6:4 ESV). There is a wonderful lesson to be learned from the story of “Goldilocks and the Three Bears.” I’m sure you remember the story. It has been a staple of childhood books for many years. Without retelling the story, let me focus your attention on the part of the story where Goldilocks finds her “just right” spot in the chairs, the food, and the bed of the story. Life is full of comparisons. It is only when we compare ourselves to the wrong things that we begin to develop negative feelings about ourselves. Often we quit on ourselves too soon because of the feelings of inferiority that come from these kinds of comparisons. Here are some practical suggestions to develop a “Goldilocks life.” 1. First, remember that who you are is more valuable than what you do. Your worth as a person is not based on your intelligence, your grades, how hard you work. It is enough to be you. 2. Second, respect and value the opinions of others, but realize that ultimately you must respect and satisfy yourself. Regardless of what others may tell you about whom you are, there are only two opinions that really count, the Lord’s and yours! Listen to the Holy Spirit as He directs you in your life. Rest in that counsel more than any other. 3. Third, remember you get what you get because you go where you go. All of us have trouble with impulsive behavior of one sort or another. Get into the habit of thinking about the consequences of your behavior before you begin to act. Make good choices by looking ahead. 4. Fourth, don't worry about or dwell on things that go wrong. You’ll make some bad choices along the way. Goldilocks chose badly twice each time before she finally was satisfied the third time. Don’t quit too soon! And, concentrate on your successes. Remember that little successes build up just as quickly as little failures. 5. Fifth, success takes time. Give yourself time to change. Forgive yourself for backsliding and making mistakes. Don't be a perfectionist. Make approaching your goals the basis of your self-respect rather than reaching your goals. Be willing to risk failure for something you really care about. Be willing to risk success, too! Positive self-esteem begins to develop as develop these traits. Wouldn’t it have been sad if Goldilocks had stopped just short of finding that “just right” place? Perhaps you have settled for that in your life. There is no reason to do so. Start your journey again. Don’t give up. Success is just up ahead!