Responding with Gratitude - Pt. 9

 

Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear. And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, by whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you. (Ephesians 4:29-32 ESV).

 

Many studies have been conducted into the emotional and psychological effect of negative versus positive words. In fact, numerous conclusions have shown that in order to cancel the devastating effects of one negative word, four positive words need to be spoken. This shows how negative, harsh, and humiliating words can do great damage to human beings.

 

Our reading for today uses vivid imagery to speak about the impact our words can have. Just as a small rudder can steer a ship or a bit can control a horse, so the words of our mouths can make a big difference in life. Further, our speech can have the same effect as a spark: it can cause great destruction! We are encouraged, then, to choose our words carefully and to recognize the impact our speech makes (cf. James 3:1-12). The Apostle Paul echoes these words in these verses today. We are called to build others up and speak in a way that helps the people who hear our words.

 

There are many children who suffered from such harshness. Demeaning words used by a domineering father or mother, spouse who cannot model kindness and graciousness haunt them for a very long time. Thankfully, the love of Jesus can heal much of this trauma. I am grateful to the calling of God in my life to help people find this grace and break the cycle of this kind of abuse.

 

As we reflect on the power of words, let’s consider how—with the Spirit’s help—we can all bring healing for people who have faced trauma.