Thin Skinned - Pt 2

Many are the sorrows of the wicked, but steadfast love surrounds the one who trusts in the Lord. Be glad in the Lord, and rejoice, O righteous, and shout for joy, all you upright in heart! (Psalm 32:10-11 ESV).

I have seen it written that we need to be a people with a thick skin and a tender heart. That is central to the example and desire of God in our lives. Our culture has developed such a privileged and protected attitude that we have lost much of our desire and ability to do this. The psalmist encourages us to be very aware of the steadfast love that surrounds us. It is this knowledge that prompts us to achieve balance in our lives. So, I offer four ways you can be a person with a thick skin and a tender heart in your relationships with others: 1. First we need to be people of the Scripture. We cannot fall into the trap of being so much in the world that become a part of the world. We should be understanding of the human condition and the shortcomings of others; however, we cannot fall into the error of misunderstanding our own shortcomings. Doing this puts us in touch with the grace of God and leads to an attitude of grace and forgiveness towards those who hurt us. 2. Second, do not apologize for having your heart hurt; and, don’t harbor the hurt. When we are hurt there is no sin in our heart. It is the harboring of this hurt and allowing it to make you bitter or fill you with a grudge that becomes the sin. Speak your truth and be honest when you have been wounded; and, always forgive and resolve conflict. 3. Third, take charge by being firm and true. We have the responsibilities that we do for a reason. Wise people have seen our potential and believe that we are the right person for whatever responsibility we have accepted. It is our responsibility to wield our power with grace and truth, which sometimes means taking a stand on the truth of the Word when we need to. We should not be afraid to take control where we need to take it and lead others when they need to be led. We should speak truth firmly; and, know our responsibility, and walk in it. 4. Fourth, stay humble; the teacher can always be taught. We should know our humanity, and be willing to admit it. It’s hard for a follower of Christ to argue with someone who knows their humanity and is willing to continue to learn and grow into the image of Jesus! If you are humble, if you are teachable, others will want to be taught by you.