Giving Yourself Grace

 

[The Apostle Paul said] So to keep me from becoming conceited because of the surpassing greatness of the revelations, a thorn was given me in the flesh, a messenger of Satan to harass me, to keep me from becoming conceited. Three times I pleaded with the Lord about this, that it should leave me. But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly of my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may rest upon me. (2 Corinthians 12:7-9 ESV).

 

Perhaps the most difficult thing I have learned as I have aged is the importance of giving myself grace. This lesson is often echoed by the wisdom of mentors and friends who remind me that growth is a process, not an immediate transformation. My penchant for perfection has always been a stumbling block to the joy of finishing a task.

 

One of those times when this lesson became clearer to me was on a turkey hunt with two of my friends in Tennessee, Bucky Rowland and Tom McCoy. One of them set up just a few yards away from my position so that he could call a gobbler close enough for me to get a shot. It was long until two big Eastern Turkeys started to trot into range. I was anxious to impress my other friend with my trophy and my impatience got the best of me. I shot way to early while the turkeys were still a bit out of range. Needless to say I was very disappointed and embarrassed. As we walked back to the truck I stayed on the other side of the field, walking alone. Later I learned that one of the others asked, “Why is Don way over there?” The answer was easy since my other friend knew me all too well. He said, “Oh, he just needs a little alone time. He’s doesn’t do well with failure.”

 

“Grow in the grace and knowledge of Jesus Christ,” urges 2 Peter 3:18. This involves embracing our imperfections, learning from our mistakes, and celebrating our progress. It’s a reminder that God’s grace is sufficient for every step of our journey. We need to let go of unrealistic expectations and understand that maturity comes with time and experience. Another mentor once told me, “Every step forward, no matter how small, is still progress.” His words have stayed with me, reminding me that growth is not always visible but is always happening.

 

Oh, I should say that I did go back out a few days later with Bucky and got my first Eastern Gobbler! I waited that time! Perhaps you should give yourself a little grace and simply try again!